Sunday, November 24, 2013

Becoming a Fashion Grown up-Chubby Girl In the World Style

Ok, I'll admit it I'm getting old, on Dec. 7th of this year I will be 29! (Silent freak out). What's worse is I'm now a grown up with an early not mid-twenties closet. I feel like I've outgrown the major retailers and need to move on, I'm ready for a more mature fashion relationship but I have fashion issues.
 My key fashion issues:

  • Short leg, longer torso
  • Bottom heavy in all the wrong places
  • what I call "marshmallow syndrome"- If clothes are too tight, it looks like I'm a sausage, if too loose they not shape at all.
So does any of this sound familiar? Here's the advice that has actually worked for me over the years and if I had unlimited funds this is the wardrobe I would create, I' a size 28 which is considered "super sized" so for the sake of argument I'll include designers that stop at size 26 but note them with an asterisk*. Nothing is worse than reading a that one page of Marie Claire dedicated to Plus fashion and realizing none of that fabulous can be yours.

Perfectly tailored pants:
 onestopplus.com-Pants by Igigi.com
Tailored oxford shirt:
onestopplus.com-the pintuck gives this shirt an update from the older oxfords.

structured tulip skirt:
_mg_4744qfd.com "Enamored" ensemble
Structured body con dress:

Mossimo® Women's Plus-Size Sleeveless Ponte Dress -  Assorted Colors Target.com $19.79




Amazing Blazer:
Monif C. "Veronica" Blazer

Cocktail Dress:
igigi.com- ambrosia-dress.jpg (1056×1440)just the right amount of sexy.


Special occasion dress:Black And Gold Party Dress by Ruby RoxI actually own this awesome Ruby Rox dress, it's perfect for New Years, an anniversary night or a Gatsby themed party! Available on SONSI.com

Feminine accessories: I like to keep the darker colors on my bottom half and use accessories for my pop of color. like these:

oscar de la renta $125 renttherunway.com

Crislu emerald drop earring $25 renttherunway.com

Anne Klein Stone Station Necklacenordstrom.com
igigi.com


Mens inspired piece:Monochrome Contrast Detail Shirtsimplybe.com

There is my dream wardrobe and now I must go to bed and dream of it because Mr. T as he's affectionately known now is making me go to bed.
Good night and ta ta for now my lovelies.
-CGINTW

Tuesday, November 19, 2013

Hot Holiday Outfits from Turkey Day to the NYC Ball drop



So I am on the hunt for occasion appropriate holiday outfits here's what I've found so far:

Are you meeting your boyfriends parents for the first time this Thanksgiving? Keep young, classy and sophisticated in a belted tunic
Bespoke Shirt With Belt
Simplybe.com $45
Belted Ankle Grazer PantsPair with these ankle length pants, remove the belt though and
 Don't forget to tone down the accessories, if you're going to wear hair down no need for earrings, instead do a bold lipstick to match the belt, if you're wearing your hair up or you have a shorter style go with a more neutral lip and do diamond or pear studs, timeless.
Hanging out with your friends during the Holidays for Secret Santa? Go casual and cute with these sweaters also from Simply be.com Love the Santa hat!


Kiss Me Sweater$56Mitten Sweater$65

Pair with a pair of jeans like these Seven jeans available at Lane Bryant for $89.95:

Double stitch bootcut jean by Seven7



Hanging out with fam this holiday season? Want to look pulled together but not fussy? Try a sweater dress or pair dark wash jeans with a bright body hugging sweater. Keep make up natural but play up your eyes with these looks and make sure to wear an awesome statement necklace with this dress, think cascading gold arrow necklace!


Extra Touch Plus Size Sweater, Short-Sleeve Metallic TunicMacys.com $18.99     Zip shoulder sweaterlanebraynt.com $59.95



Away from home and partying through the Holidays? Or just looking for that perfect NYE dress? Here are some awesome options


Both of these looks available at Forever21.com under Plus sizes, use the leather skirt and peplum shirt for an impromptu date night, and take this furry vest and all its sumptuousness out for a ride while holiday shopping with the girls.



Having a daytime Holiday Party at work or just want to keep it modest? Show your holiday spirit in this sequined top from Torrid.com
torrid.com 44.50

AX Paris Lace Waist Skater DressOr this amazingly cute and simply dress from simplybe.com $65 Pair it with navy shoes for fall and bright red pumps during the holidays.

This year you can channel your inner femme fatale or flapper with these awesome NYE dresses both can be found at simplybe.com Don't forget your Great Gatsby headgear!

Claire Richards Sequin Bodycon Dress$150
Joanna Hope Angel Sleeve Sequin DressJoanna Hope Angel Sleeve Sequin Dress $ 210
Happy Shopping my lovlies and remember it's not the size on the tag that matters it's how awesome it makes you feel, no matter if you're a 12 or 36 you are beautiful and you don't need anyone's permission to think so!
-CGITW



 





Friday, November 8, 2013

Fat Shaming-Why it will never motivate obese people to lose weight.


 
 
 
 
The average American woman is a size 12 or over, the most common size being a size 16/18. A doctor whose name I don't think is worth mentioning (as he's gotten enough press already) has advised that doctors "put heavy social pressure" on their overweight patients to lose weight. He believe that social shaming will motivate people to live healthier lives and modify habits similar to what the anti-smoking campaigns did in the 1990's. Yes those campaigns were effective and got the message across.  However, a person can choose to never smoke again, unfortunately I will still have to eat dinner tonight, it might be a salad or pizza depending on my mood, but guess what I going to pick if I feel bad about myself, think other people hate me because of my weight and I feel isolated and ridiculed by my doctors "shaming" their patients.
 
Let me be perfectly clear being morbidly obese is a chronic condition, it's something that needs constant attention and work. You don't have to be 125 to be healthy but someone as heavy as me (322 pounds thank you) does need to work on cleaning up fitness and nutrition habits to prevent diabetes, heart disease all those things but the way to do that is through encouragement not fat shaming.
 
 Fat shaming is bullying under the guise of "tough love" and it doesn't work. Why would anyone take advice from someone who makes them feel bad about themselves. If your true motivation is to help someone lead a healthier life, then as a physician maybe you should undergo actual training in nutrition instead of the cursory overview you had to do in medical school. Also stop assuming that I'm lazy, I actually once had a doctor ask me "So, do you just stay home all day?" I think he truly imagined me sitting around my house eating bon bons all day.  Stop trying to equate me as a person with the size of my jeans, I'm a hard working independent woman who can and always will stand on her own merit, just because I literally don't fit into the mold you want me too does not make me an irrelevant or unimportant part of society, it just makes me someone with excess fat to lose.
 
 
Plus Model Magazine did an excellent job on discussing the stupid and moronic twitter taunts directed  actress Gabby Sidibe when she had a scene on her show that involved a sex scene. BIG surprise bigger women have sex too and guess what there's nothing wrong with that! I can't believe that in this age women are having to not only defend their reproductive rights but now you're supposed to be ashamed of your sexual desires if you're overweight? Again I have issues with the so-called "Fat Acceptance" movement, but what I cannot abide is actual medical professionals supporting that idea that bullying their patients is a good idea. What about having better nutrition in schools? Bringing back P.E. and Dance and Sports, what about giving tax incentives to everyone for joining a gym? Healthcare costs related to obesity are soaring but every study shows that positive reinforcement coupled with slow sustained weight loss is the key to lifestyle change. Let's focus on making every person better, help those who are struggling and be the support of those who need it, let's make positive changes in ourselves, in our families and in our communities.
-Chubby Girl In The World
Stefanie Gomez (5 Feet tall, 322 pounds and working on it.)