Sunday, November 24, 2013

Becoming a Fashion Grown up-Chubby Girl In the World Style

Ok, I'll admit it I'm getting old, on Dec. 7th of this year I will be 29! (Silent freak out). What's worse is I'm now a grown up with an early not mid-twenties closet. I feel like I've outgrown the major retailers and need to move on, I'm ready for a more mature fashion relationship but I have fashion issues.
 My key fashion issues:

  • Short leg, longer torso
  • Bottom heavy in all the wrong places
  • what I call "marshmallow syndrome"- If clothes are too tight, it looks like I'm a sausage, if too loose they not shape at all.
So does any of this sound familiar? Here's the advice that has actually worked for me over the years and if I had unlimited funds this is the wardrobe I would create, I' a size 28 which is considered "super sized" so for the sake of argument I'll include designers that stop at size 26 but note them with an asterisk*. Nothing is worse than reading a that one page of Marie Claire dedicated to Plus fashion and realizing none of that fabulous can be yours.

Perfectly tailored pants:
 onestopplus.com-Pants by Igigi.com
Tailored oxford shirt:
onestopplus.com-the pintuck gives this shirt an update from the older oxfords.

structured tulip skirt:
_mg_4744qfd.com "Enamored" ensemble
Structured body con dress:

Mossimo® Women's Plus-Size Sleeveless Ponte Dress -  Assorted Colors Target.com $19.79




Amazing Blazer:
Monif C. "Veronica" Blazer

Cocktail Dress:
igigi.com- ambrosia-dress.jpg (1056×1440)just the right amount of sexy.


Special occasion dress:Black And Gold Party Dress by Ruby RoxI actually own this awesome Ruby Rox dress, it's perfect for New Years, an anniversary night or a Gatsby themed party! Available on SONSI.com

Feminine accessories: I like to keep the darker colors on my bottom half and use accessories for my pop of color. like these:

oscar de la renta $125 renttherunway.com

Crislu emerald drop earring $25 renttherunway.com

Anne Klein Stone Station Necklacenordstrom.com
igigi.com


Mens inspired piece:Monochrome Contrast Detail Shirtsimplybe.com

There is my dream wardrobe and now I must go to bed and dream of it because Mr. T as he's affectionately known now is making me go to bed.
Good night and ta ta for now my lovelies.
-CGINTW

Tuesday, November 19, 2013

Hot Holiday Outfits from Turkey Day to the NYC Ball drop



So I am on the hunt for occasion appropriate holiday outfits here's what I've found so far:

Are you meeting your boyfriends parents for the first time this Thanksgiving? Keep young, classy and sophisticated in a belted tunic
Bespoke Shirt With Belt
Simplybe.com $45
Belted Ankle Grazer PantsPair with these ankle length pants, remove the belt though and
 Don't forget to tone down the accessories, if you're going to wear hair down no need for earrings, instead do a bold lipstick to match the belt, if you're wearing your hair up or you have a shorter style go with a more neutral lip and do diamond or pear studs, timeless.
Hanging out with your friends during the Holidays for Secret Santa? Go casual and cute with these sweaters also from Simply be.com Love the Santa hat!


Kiss Me Sweater$56Mitten Sweater$65

Pair with a pair of jeans like these Seven jeans available at Lane Bryant for $89.95:

Double stitch bootcut jean by Seven7



Hanging out with fam this holiday season? Want to look pulled together but not fussy? Try a sweater dress or pair dark wash jeans with a bright body hugging sweater. Keep make up natural but play up your eyes with these looks and make sure to wear an awesome statement necklace with this dress, think cascading gold arrow necklace!


Extra Touch Plus Size Sweater, Short-Sleeve Metallic TunicMacys.com $18.99     Zip shoulder sweaterlanebraynt.com $59.95



Away from home and partying through the Holidays? Or just looking for that perfect NYE dress? Here are some awesome options


Both of these looks available at Forever21.com under Plus sizes, use the leather skirt and peplum shirt for an impromptu date night, and take this furry vest and all its sumptuousness out for a ride while holiday shopping with the girls.



Having a daytime Holiday Party at work or just want to keep it modest? Show your holiday spirit in this sequined top from Torrid.com
torrid.com 44.50

AX Paris Lace Waist Skater DressOr this amazingly cute and simply dress from simplybe.com $65 Pair it with navy shoes for fall and bright red pumps during the holidays.

This year you can channel your inner femme fatale or flapper with these awesome NYE dresses both can be found at simplybe.com Don't forget your Great Gatsby headgear!

Claire Richards Sequin Bodycon Dress$150
Joanna Hope Angel Sleeve Sequin DressJoanna Hope Angel Sleeve Sequin Dress $ 210
Happy Shopping my lovlies and remember it's not the size on the tag that matters it's how awesome it makes you feel, no matter if you're a 12 or 36 you are beautiful and you don't need anyone's permission to think so!
-CGITW



 





Friday, November 8, 2013

Fat Shaming-Why it will never motivate obese people to lose weight.


 
 
 
 
The average American woman is a size 12 or over, the most common size being a size 16/18. A doctor whose name I don't think is worth mentioning (as he's gotten enough press already) has advised that doctors "put heavy social pressure" on their overweight patients to lose weight. He believe that social shaming will motivate people to live healthier lives and modify habits similar to what the anti-smoking campaigns did in the 1990's. Yes those campaigns were effective and got the message across.  However, a person can choose to never smoke again, unfortunately I will still have to eat dinner tonight, it might be a salad or pizza depending on my mood, but guess what I going to pick if I feel bad about myself, think other people hate me because of my weight and I feel isolated and ridiculed by my doctors "shaming" their patients.
 
Let me be perfectly clear being morbidly obese is a chronic condition, it's something that needs constant attention and work. You don't have to be 125 to be healthy but someone as heavy as me (322 pounds thank you) does need to work on cleaning up fitness and nutrition habits to prevent diabetes, heart disease all those things but the way to do that is through encouragement not fat shaming.
 
 Fat shaming is bullying under the guise of "tough love" and it doesn't work. Why would anyone take advice from someone who makes them feel bad about themselves. If your true motivation is to help someone lead a healthier life, then as a physician maybe you should undergo actual training in nutrition instead of the cursory overview you had to do in medical school. Also stop assuming that I'm lazy, I actually once had a doctor ask me "So, do you just stay home all day?" I think he truly imagined me sitting around my house eating bon bons all day.  Stop trying to equate me as a person with the size of my jeans, I'm a hard working independent woman who can and always will stand on her own merit, just because I literally don't fit into the mold you want me too does not make me an irrelevant or unimportant part of society, it just makes me someone with excess fat to lose.
 
 
Plus Model Magazine did an excellent job on discussing the stupid and moronic twitter taunts directed  actress Gabby Sidibe when she had a scene on her show that involved a sex scene. BIG surprise bigger women have sex too and guess what there's nothing wrong with that! I can't believe that in this age women are having to not only defend their reproductive rights but now you're supposed to be ashamed of your sexual desires if you're overweight? Again I have issues with the so-called "Fat Acceptance" movement, but what I cannot abide is actual medical professionals supporting that idea that bullying their patients is a good idea. What about having better nutrition in schools? Bringing back P.E. and Dance and Sports, what about giving tax incentives to everyone for joining a gym? Healthcare costs related to obesity are soaring but every study shows that positive reinforcement coupled with slow sustained weight loss is the key to lifestyle change. Let's focus on making every person better, help those who are struggling and be the support of those who need it, let's make positive changes in ourselves, in our families and in our communities.
-Chubby Girl In The World
Stefanie Gomez (5 Feet tall, 322 pounds and working on it.)
 

Wednesday, October 16, 2013

Earning the right to be a mother-The reason I'm putting off having children until I'm healthy.

Last night, an episode of The Biggest Loser really got to me, one of the women on the show talked about her food addiction and how her little girl was 70 pounds overweight. I cried when I saw the pain in her face, the palpable guilt was visible in her stature she stood like the weight of the world was on her shoulders and for good reason. It's one thing to be unhealthy it's something completely different to allow your children to continue the cycle but they will if you don't change something and I would know. I come from a generations long line of women who struggle with their weight, almost every single family member I have is a diabetic, myself included.

My family didn't set out to be unhealthy, they actually have tried for years to turn the corner and many of them have on an individual level and the journey isn't quite over yet for many, like my mother who is the best mom in the world and she  has always struggled with her weight. She didn't actually have time to go on a diet before having me, I came as a total surprise! The doctors didn't even believe her when she knew was pregnant, they kept telling her she just had gas! (She still tells me I'm full of hot air)

 I know that is she could plan it out, no surprises this time she would have done everything in her power to make sure we was healthy and ready for me, this I have no doubt of. It's her amazing example of a loving, nurturing and fiercely protective maternal figure that helped me through all the amazingly hard times with my weight. I have always struggled with my weight, there is not a time in my life when I have been at a healthy BMI for my height, I don't actually know what it's like to be healthy, it's a foreign concept to me.

Skinny was for other people not me, every time I would try to lose weight I would fail, the failure made me feel bad the only thing that made me feel good was food, I gained more weight. This viciousness has perpetuated itself on my family for too long. So I made a decision last night; I will not be a mother before I get to a healthy weight and have established a history of exercise and eating right for a least a year before getting pregnant.

I always told myself that I would not have children before I could afford them, soon I will have reached the financial wonderland of professionalism and homeownership in a few years. I always believed buying a home was the financial signal that it was okay to have children, however what about your body's signal? I thought long and hard about it, there was no way I would pass on my bad habits to my son or daughter, I couldn't live with myself if something happened to them because I couldn't make a commitment to myself to get healthy.

Because I've had such an amazing mother, who set the bar particularly high, I want to be the best one possible as well. I'm already in love with my children and they aren't even coming yet! Walking on the treadmill has a new meaning for me now, every step is one step closer to starting my new family, with new habits, new futures and a bright outlook, I can't wait until I start running toward them.
-CGINTW

Tuesday, October 15, 2013

Fall is here and Fashion is in full Swing! Film Noir looks, oxblood and preppy oh my!

Project D London Barbican Skater Dress
Fall is here again! But wait don't break out your boring turtlenecks just yet not until you look at my all time favorite dresses and pieces from this season. Simplybe.com a London outfitter has amazing pieces and often great deals like this Project D London dress is so versatile you can wear to both the office and your three dates afterward ;). The other body hugging dress is on trend with it's contrast shoulder detailing and metallic coloring.




    Who says you can't rock this seasons geometric, film noir and preppy trends? The bow blouse below will help you pull of collegiate chic, add a varsity jacket and you're now ahead of the curve, bell curve that is! I love the way the Barbican Skater dress (above) is shown with blue pumps, perfect for a night out, pair with nude or neutral flats or heels for the office.

 The geo shirt down below is one of my faves, because it is done so well. Too often plus size women are told "stay away from patterns" but this one is done right, keep your help slick and simple and add some classy earring and you're good to go.



Project D London Barbican Skater Dress
  $91.00

 Project D London Belgravia Dress

Project D London Belgravia Dress $87 



 Igigi always has beautiful dresses available but the "Ambrosia" below really caught my attention maybe not for everyday wear but a modern twist on the "film noir" look.
Ambrosia Dress in Royal Ambrosia Plus Size Dress in Royal $175 Igigi.com





The two shirts featured also on Simplybe.com are perfect for the office or brunch with ladies, yes all of these pieces are a bit pricey but think of how many things you already own that go with them! Want to change up the look of a little black dress? Add a statement necklace or even a brooch, brooches they're not just for your grandma anymore!
 

 

Black/white Geo Print BlouseBlack/white Geo Print Blouse
$55.00




Monochrome Bow Collar Tie Blouse - Additional View3

Monochrome Bow Collar Tie Blouse $65 Simplybe.com


          
 

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Want to go out on a date but it's casual dining and it's cold out? Don't fret your pretty little head, Old Navy has a cardi for that! The adorable sparkling sweater is still pricing but you'll be able to use it on date night, a comfy new years jacket, and if you're short like me it's a great way for your friends not to lose you in a crowd! 
 
          Women's Plus Sequined Boyfriend Cardis $52.94 Oldnavy.com 

 

Wednesday, August 7, 2013

Bestowing beauty on yourself

For many years I was told by television, print and other media that I was not beautiful because I did not fit their clothes, their look, their ideals of what beauty was. This is me taking back beauty a small smidgen at a time in poetic fashion:

Raw Beauty by Stefanie Gomez

The bar was real wood, raw it was the first thing she noticed when she walked in
her large frame lumbered into the ill fitting chair that she knew would cut off her circulation.
"A cosmo  please." she asked of the much younger prettier bartender who obliged with a genuine smile. She felt so out of place her as she usually did, nothing in this establishment matched her,
the clientele were all sleek and beautiful in a wholesome Northwest sort of way.
Her structured shirt-waisted navy dress clashed with all the sandals and jeans. She was outside looking in on the bohemian revolution, she could never be apart of them,  contending with the tyranny of "newness" seemed useless.

She retreated into the fictional time when a woman could be allowed sensuality without others demanding superficial improvements. A time when raw wood no matter how dented, scratched or used up it was could be useful and
in its own usefulness bestow upon itself its own unique and wondrous beauty,
a raw unrelenting passion that through its strength and endurance would encapsulate itself forever
 in a favorable light no matter what the years or gods rained down upon it.
 It would be forever beautiful not because of any opinion or justification from its patrons
but its own stalwart existence.

Saturday, July 27, 2013

Why did one of the biggest plus size retailers discontinue their most popular product?

Many plus size women know the joys of having to purchase a specific type of slacks/pants/jeans in order to not get that annoying "my zipper is falling down" syndrome also known as "unlocking" zippers because some ridiculous designer decided to not make it long enough for your torso. I, my friends am  member of this club, my day job as an office manager requires me to keep a somewhat conservative wardrobe, I try to keep it more Audrey and Sophia than Maude and one of the staples of my closet is the extended tab slack, in black  mostly now when another retail conglomerate, Ascena Retail Group Inc. bought out Lane Bryant it closed its Fashion Bug operations which is where I always got my reasonably priced pants so when I walked into a LB store the other day to purchase a similar pair I was was told that they had discontinued that style.

"So... they don't make them anymore?" I asked the sales woman.
"No,....it's really strange too because that was one of our most popular items." she said.
"Do you know who your buyer is at Corporate, what their name is?" I wanted to give them a piece of my mind for sure.
"No." she said and offered nothing else.

Now other than my underwhelming customer experience I have to ask WTF? I know I cannot be the only person up in arms about it, those were literally the only style of pants that I knew no matter what would fit, I'm living in mortal fear of the day when my current pair wear out which is coming fast I know I've had them for over three years well worth the $40 investment but what do I do then?

Supposedly LB is working on a more "universal fit" but wasn't that the point of the their hieroglyphic sizing system in the first place that not all plus women are create equal? Another point of contention is that no one warned me, no one said "oh by the way in six months we won't make these anymore, so buy 10 now." I would have been ok with that, but now I'm left feeling iced out and hoping that my pants will stand that test of time.

Sunday, July 21, 2013

Nextflix for Plus size Fashion? Worth the cash or save your pennies?

Is this the new Netflix? Gwynnie Bee is an online subscription where you can take out anywhere from 1-5 pieces of designer clothing ranging from $35-79 price tag. You can keep the clothes as long as you want but you can return in the provided bags and get new pieces every month, just like netflix it's the same price every month. This sounds pretty tempting to the clothes horse in all of us especially with gems like these Vince Camuto, teal wrap top and the Igigi dress on the far left in green. However, there are some questionable "designers". Lands End is a very reasonable, nice everyday workwear line, it is not however what I would call "designer".  I think it's a neat idea and you get the first 30 days free and it is nice to not have to worry about cleaning, the website states you can "return in any state" so my ultimate verdict is if you choose to use the service pick only the higher end designers in order to test how you will feel in the piece and style, I've been a big fan of trends but you can use sites like Gwynnie Bee to find your own personal style and try something new without make a major financial committment.
Veruca Dress
Jersey Wrap Dress With Flutter SleeveGwynnie BeeLucretia DressFaux Wrap Top



 Check out our review of Savvy Plus below.......

Want an lower priced option where you don't have send back your designer digs? Try my favorite new kind of shop RESALE! That's right ladies if you can find an amazing higher end resale shop in your area that caters to plus size women, then welcome to heaven. My fashion pearly gates is in Southeast Portland on Hawthorne you can find the amazingness of Savvy Plus which is a small boutique decked out in positive body image decor with helpful attendants, and the owner is one of the best buyers of plus size clothes.  If you're lucky enough to be in the Portland area you have to stop by, the get in new pieces every day and they are constantly changing stock, although yours truly is coveting the Louis Vuitton red purse on the wall, and last time I was in their I scored a cute Coach bag for $37! If you're looking for value resale is the way to go the buyers are very picky about what they take in so you know you'll end up with all the nice things you're craving and who could be upset at saving money and looking good? Do you own a resale shop you'd like our readers to know about? Email us chubbygirlintheworld@gmail.com!

Sunday, June 16, 2013

The power of the almight dollar in plus size fashion

I know that I will never  be a Giselle lookalike, my 5 foot frame and Mexican heritage have doomed me to a lifetime of ill fitting plus size petite clothes or has it?

 Say hello to Etsy ladies, where you can find gorgeous clothes custom made for you, yes it will be an investment but what do you think it would feel like to have every single piece of your wardrobe flatter your shape? It would feel incredible and it's not quite as expensive as you think, after being extremely frustrated that all the bridal gowns I'd looked at were either not available in my size or the store did not carry samples big enough for me to try on ; I looked to the internet. This is the one I fell in love with:


I was not willing to buy my dress from overseas and I really wanted to find a local dress maker, enter Etsy.com where you can find everything handmande, vintage, funky and many people across the world who make made to order clothes.

It is time we take back the right to feel beautiful, time we stop handing over money in crazy amounts to mass retailers who have proven time and again that they have no idea what we want, a more personalized, flattering fit (like "straight" sized women), time we rip off  bonds of Lame Bryant, HOrrid and the all so horribly named Dressbarn. Enough is enough time to empower local seamstresses,shoemakers and plus size resale stores like Fat Fancy and  Savvy Plus, here in Portland, OR.

Have a great resale or seasmtress in your neck of the woods? Share it! Spread the revolution and stop feeding the shame machine of the corporate plus size world. We deserve better from the industry and until they wake up and realize we will not be relegated to the back of the store, it's time to put our hard earned money elsewhere.
-CGINTW

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Memorial Day Looks that won't break the bank! All your plus size bbq dilemma's solved!.

Good Morning My Lovlies!

Memorial Day is fast approaching on May 27th, not only is that day my current yogurt stash expires, it is also the day we honor those who have served our country and given the ultimate sacrifice. That being said, the bbq's, beach parties and cook outs that will occur require a type of California chic I'm very familiar with, here are three looks sure to please any Chubby Girl:
 

Women's Plus Tie-Waist Blouses
Old Navy $19.00













Pair the tunic shirt with these beautiful ocean blue pants and a red or turquoise necklace and it's perfect for a family bbq or brunch.
Women's Plus The Rockstar Pop-Color Skinny Jeans
 
Old Navy $39.50











 
















Ivory Floral Chiffon Tank Dress SKU: 580718
Ivory Floral Dress Torrid.com $26.00

This is a pretty easy breezy date look from Torrid, perfect for Sunday Brunch with the girls pair with nude flats or for a naughty but nice look with sky high white or pink pumps.

 
 
 
If you looking for a kicked back day at the board walk or park, stay comfy and cool in capri skinny jeans and a striped shirt. The key to wearing horizontal stripes when you're a Plus is to make sure the stripes are broad and in fun colors when you wear them on tops, conversely if you wear pinstripes makes sure those are on the bottom. Pair this looks with a long thin shiny chain necklace to create an even clean line. Like this one:
Forever 21.com $4.80
 
jcp™ Striped Hem Tee
Striped Henley Tee $6 Clearance JC Penny
jcp™ Slim Ankle-Length Jeans -PlusJC Penny Skinny Jeans up to size 24 $30.00
 
 
 
 
Don't forget to check back next Friday for my glamour shoot photos, it's time I start loving myself more and your should too. You're gorgeous you always have been and you always will be!
-CGINTW
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Thursday, May 16, 2013

I am hubled and so very sorry for being away.

I have not posted since January 16th for many reasons but today I realized I had left an entire community which I loved being a part of. I honestly didn't think anyone read my blog and today I looked at the stats just out of curiosity and 708 hits this month alone, I am in awe of all of you, I have broken promises, missed deadlines and not delievered the goods and many of you have tried to reach out, to those who did I'm sorry I was away and your words meant the world to me though you didn't know it at the time I was and am still going through a pretty tough time.

I've always viewed our community as inclusive some people describe it as "Fatshion" but I don't see most bloggers/models who are seriously unhealthy, we just live a world that calls size 4 cheerleaders "chunky", that being said there are serious health consequences with being grossly overweight as I am. I'm going to divulge a lot here and there won't be any glossy glamorous pics (those will come later, I have a plan.) Today is just about being honest with myself and with you. So here it goes.

My Name is Stefanie Marie Gomez and I am a compulsive over eater, I eat when I'm sad, bored, lonely or when things aren't going my way. I'm five feet tall and weigh 314 pounds, I've lost my first 20 pounds over 10 times in my life and gone right back, I feel like complete failure in life, in dieting and I feel as if the man who has chosen to spend his life with me has sentenced himself to a life of unhappiness. I feel as though there is no way anyone could find me beautiful let alone sexually attractive because when I look in the mirror I see failure, failed will power, a hopelessly flawed body and I've never felt any other way, I hate looking in the mirror because I will be reminded of the gross thing that is reflected in the mirror and to the world.

 I have been in denial for too long, to me the me that thinks and feels that woman in the mirror is someone else, she deserves ridicule and punishment for not getting her act together, so I beat her up mentally and with food. I eat in secret at times just so people won't know how much I'm actually consuming because if they knew that Taco Bell order was just for me they'd be horrified. Every time I try and fail it reinforces my idea that I'm just not meant to be healthy, which I know is just a cop out.

The problem is I really don't like that girl in the mirror, in fact I hate her. I wish I could make her go away and never come back, but every time I get on the right track I think I freak out and backslide because a part of me thinks that she is  who I really am, that I really am a complete failure and will never amount to anything. In my head until I'm thin and beautiful none of my accomplishments will mean anything which I know is so bewilderingly unhealthy magical thinking. So I've decided that from now on, this is the one place I can be honest with myself, I'm going to add a small journal page where I just come and vent about the day, I encourage any of you going through this same process to comment, share and support me and each other through this tough process.

How am I going to deal with this? Why dressing up and putting on pretty make up of course, sound trivial? Scientists believe that makeup can give you a small boost of confidence when wearing it, so I'm going to put that to the test. I'm going to do a glamour shoot in our newly refurnished bedroom (yeah!) and put the pics up by next Friday. Want to send in your most glamorous pics? We will share them and we can let the healing start.

To all my lovlies,
CGINTW

Wednesday, January 16, 2013

Chubby Girl In the World In Concept Phase of Plus Size Clothing Line!

All right ladies too long have we secretly cried in dressing rooms, too long have designers ignored us to pursue their "aspirational" fashion, what the hell good is fashion if it doesn't fit? Why should we continue to pour money into designers, companies and media outlets that only make us feel ashamed of what we are? Maybe you're a new mom, maybe you're tall or maybe like me your someone who has struggled with their weight their whole lives and just wants to feel like a human being in a department store! Whatever the case, whoever you are whatever struggles you've been through I have felt the pain of not finding "the" dress, or not be able to rock an outfit you deserparetly wanted in a magazine.

No MAS.

D.F. Apparel is my new project,  my brain child. I want it to be a fully customizable clothing line for everyone sizes 00-38W, tall, average, pettite etc. Since I have no experience in design(that hasn't stopped me from sketching though), the fashion industry or garment making but I do have plenty of experience knowing how I wish my clothes fit; I'm opening this up to you, in the comments section leave your answer to the question "I wish my clothes...." upload photos, are you an aspiring designer, email me at chubbygirlintheworld@gmail.com, I want to make your designs come to life! Are you a current fashion student who is looking for a porject to gain experince? Let me know. Seamstress who needs extra work, I'm your lady.

My design sketches of 10 different pieces will be up this Sunday. However if you'd like to contribute to this project with full recognition (i.e) if we decide on your design we will purchase it from you!
Upload inspiration or sketches in our comments section or email to chubbygirlintheworld@gmail.com or share your Pinterest boards with us!

Love, Happiness and Success to you all!
-CGINTW

Sunday, January 13, 2013

Trying to find out why I'm here....

For a long time now I've been wondering "What the hell am I supposed to do with my life?" and I've been waiting for a sign either ephemeral or literal and alas no sign has showed up. I've planned on being everything from an attorney to a writer to a computer programmer. All of these things are easily accomplished with enough time and dedication like anything else. My problem is that I'm good at a lot of things, expert at none.

I once read "don't do what you love, do what obsesses you." Which at first I didn't understand but now I think I do. I think it means whatever you spend hours Pinning about, blogging about, reading about, do something like that, something that brings out both joy and your inner nerd. For me that has always been clothes, to me clothes, fashion, makeup hair, bring out everything from your inner sex goddess, to your "i'm gonna take over the world!" business suit. Until now I've only been brave enough to read and write and fawn over those in the industry thinking I wasn't talented or worthy enough to be a part of that world.

It wasn't until recently that I'm finally getting up the guts to work on a project I've been thinking about for ages. I won't say anything until all the details are in order but rest assured it's coming and it will be FABULOUS!

TTFN my lovlies and I will be back next week with a grand announcement!
-CGITW

Sunday, January 6, 2013

Finding "The" Dress-Advice for the Plus size Bride

Big and I are engaged and disgustingly cute in love, or at least everyone says we are disgustingly cute, we've been watching weddings shows, interviewing bakers, booking the venue and soon very soon I'm going to be buying  "the dress". A dress so show stopping, so unbelievably gorgeous that it can only ever be worn once.

That's right ladies it's time for me to pick a wedding dress. Now, as fashion forward as I may be in my every day life, I'm envisioning an elegant affair to remember, something timeless something that will make me look like greta garbo (only shorter of course, and Mexican lol)

A few things about shopping for plus size gowns:
1.) Bridal will tend to run smaller than street clothes, Davids Bridal is actually pretty forgiving when it comes to sizing however and their quality for the price is pretty good,

2.) Remember if you're short (like me) remember that you want to wear the dress, you don't want the dress to wear YOU.

3.) Consider your shape, are you apple? (Like me with a tummy) or pear, or diamond or square on top? Let the consultant know which areas you are self conscious about so she can try to find the right fit, if you fall in love with a strapless dress but hate your arms ask to see a wrap or if sleeves can be added.

4.) If you are on the higher end of plus size (again like me, I'm a 28 for now) call ahead and ask what the salon carries in terms of sample in store, clips will only go so far on a dress 5 sizes too small, you don't want what should be a wonderful experience turning into a sob fest when nothing fits.

5.) DO NOT let your size stand in the way of getting your perfect dress. Every woman deserves to feel beautiful on her day, never settle, you didn't settle for your mate, no need to settle on the dress.

I've found some winners everything from reasonably priced to outlandish extravagance, so here's a little taste of my new obsession:
Igigi's collection of wedding dresses is to die for and beyond reasonable this one part of a limited collection is around $500.
This dress had been my dream dress since before I got engaged, it was available in my size every year that I was NOT engaged and now sadly it's no longer available in my size, however if you're a 14/16 you definitely should check it out on igigi.com About $375

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The incredibly talented Monique Lhuillier created this custom made dress for America Ferrara in the movie "Our family wedding" I cannot wait to get back to the gym so I can look like this on W day! She is so incredibly gorgeous! Price upon request.

You can be a beautiful plus size bride!This is from Laylan Heck on Pinterst, an event planner who pinned this amazing pic of a beautiful plus bride who look amazing from head to toe.
plus size wedding dress! Alfred Angelo- available up to size 26 about $600

If you find yourself desiring designer but your pocket book isn't familiar with Benjamins, try consignment shops here in Oregon there is Shabby Chic Bridal in Salem (i'm going there first!)
Also online there are tons of website with bride's reselling their gowns to recoup money from the wedding. There are even some that have never been worn, people often change their wind about the type and style of dress they like, often times seeing something online, purchasing and then deciding to go a different decoration. Make sure to check our recyclebride.com for used gowns, accessories and other reusable things.