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Becoming a Fashion Grown up-Chubby Girl In the World Style

Ok, I'll admit it I'm getting old, on Dec. 7th of this year I will be 29! (Silent freak out). What's worse is I'm now a grown up with an early not mid-twenties closet. I feel like I've outgrown the major retailers and need to move on, I'm ready for a more mature fashion relationship but I have fashion issues.
 My key fashion issues:

Short leg, longer torsoBottom heavy in all the wrong placeswhat I call "marshmallow syndrome"- If clothes are too tight, it looks like I'm a sausage, if too loose they not shape at all. So does any of this sound familiar? Here's the advice that has actually worked for me over the years and if I had unlimited funds this is the wardrobe I would create, I' a size 28 which is considered "super sized" so for the sake of argument I'll include designers that stop at size 26 but note them with an asterisk*. Nothing is worse than reading a that one page of Marie Claire dedicated to Plus fashion and realizin…

Hot Holiday Outfits from Turkey Day to the NYC Ball drop

So I am on the hunt for occasion appropriate holiday outfits here's what I've found so far:

Are you meeting your boyfriends parents for the first time this Thanksgiving? Keep young, classy and sophisticated in a belted tunic
Pair with these ankle length pants, remove the belt though and  Don't forget to tone down the accessories, if you're going to wear hair down no need for earrings, instead do a bold lipstick to match the belt, if you're wearing your hair up or you have a shorter style go with a more neutral lip and do diamond or pear studs, timeless.
Hanging out with your friends during the Holidays for Secret Santa? Go casual and cute with these sweaters also from Simply be.com Love the Santa hat!


$56$65

Pair with a pair of jeans like these Seven jeans available at Lane Bryant for $89.95:





Hanging out with fam this holiday season? Want to look pulled together but not fussy? Try a sweater dress or pair dark wash jeans with a bright body hugging sweater. Keep make u…

Fat Shaming-Why it will never motivate obese people to lose weight.

 The average American woman is a size 12 or over, the most common size being a size 16/18. A doctor whose name I don't think is worth mentioning (as he's gotten enough press already) has advised that doctors "put heavy social pressure" on their overweight patients to lose weight. He believe that social shaming will motivate people to live healthier lives and modify habits similar to what the anti-smoking campaigns did in the 1990's. Yes those campaigns were effective and got the message across.  However, a person can choose to never smoke again, unfortunately I will still have to eat dinner tonight, it might be a salad or pizza depending on my mood, but guess what I going to pick if I feel bad about myself, think other people hate me because of my weight and I feel isolated and ridiculed by my doctors "shaming" their patients. Let me be perfectly clear being morbidly obese is a chronic condition, it's something that needs constant attention and wo…

Earning the right to be a mother-The reason I'm putting off having children until I'm healthy.

Last night, an episode of The Biggest Loser really got to me, one of the women on the show talked about her food addiction and how her little girl was 70 pounds overweight. I cried when I saw the pain in her face, the palpable guilt was visible in her stature she stood like the weight of the world was on her shoulders and for good reason. It's one thing to be unhealthy it's something completely different to allow your children to continue the cycle but they will if you don't change something and I would know. I come from a generations long line of women who struggle with their weight, almost every single family member I have is a diabetic, myself included.

My family didn't set out to be unhealthy, they actually have tried for years to turn the corner and many of them have on an individual level and the journey isn't quite over yet for many, like my mother who is the best mom in the world and she  has always struggled with her weight. She didn't actually have t…

Fall is here and Fashion is in full Swing! Film Noir looks, oxblood and preppy oh my!

Fall is here again! But wait don't break out your boring turtlenecks just yet not until you look at my all time favorite dresses and pieces from this season. Simplybe.com a London outfitter has amazing pieces and often great deals like this Project D London dress is so versatile you can wear to both the office and your three dates afterward ;). The other body hugging dress is on trend with it's contrast shoulder detailing and metallic coloring.




    Who says you can't rock this seasons geometric, film noir and preppy trends? The bow blouse below will help you pull of collegiate chic, add a varsity jacket and you're now ahead of the curve, bell curve that is! I love the way the Barbican Skater dress (above) is shown with blue pumps, perfect for a night out, pair with nude or neutral flats or heels for the office.

 The geo shirt down below is one of my faves, because it is done so well. Too often plus size women are told "stay away from patterns" but this one i…

Bestowing beauty on yourself

For many years I was told by television, print and other media that I was not beautiful because I did not fit their clothes, their look, their ideals of what beauty was. This is me taking back beauty a small smidgen at a time in poetic fashion:

Raw Beauty by Stefanie Gomez

The bar was real wood, raw it was the first thing she noticed when she walked in
her large frame lumbered into the ill fitting chair that she knew would cut off her circulation.
"A cosmo  please." she asked of the much younger prettier bartender who obliged with a genuine smile. She felt so out of place her as she usually did, nothing in this establishment matched her,
the clientele were all sleek and beautiful in a wholesome Northwest sort of way.
Her structured shirt-waisted navy dress clashed with all the sandals and jeans. She was outside looking in on the bohemian revolution, she could never be apart of them,  contending with the tyranny of "newness" seemed useless.

She retreated into the fictiona…

Why did one of the biggest plus size retailers discontinue their most popular product?

Many plus size women know the joys of having to purchase a specific type of slacks/pants/jeans in order to not get that annoying "my zipper is falling down" syndrome also known as "unlocking" zippers because some ridiculous designer decided to not make it long enough for your torso. I, my friends am  member of this club, my day job as an office manager requires me to keep a somewhat conservative wardrobe, I try to keep it more Audrey and Sophia than Maude and one of the staples of my closet is the extended tab slack, in black  mostly now when another retail conglomerate, Ascena Retail Group Inc. bought out Lane Bryant it closed its Fashion Bug operations which is where I always got my reasonably priced pants so when I walked into a LB store the other day to purchase a similar pair I was was told that they had discontinued that style.

"So... they don't make them anymore?" I asked the sales woman.
"No,....it's really strange too because that wa…

Nextflix for Plus size Fashion? Worth the cash or save your pennies?

Is this the new Netflix? Gwynnie Bee is an online subscription where you can take out anywhere from 1-5 pieces of designer clothing ranging from $35-79 price tag. You can keep the clothes as long as you want but you can return in the provided bags and get new pieces every month, just like netflix it's the same price every month. This sounds pretty tempting to the clothes horse in all of us especially with gems like these Vince Camuto, teal wrap top and the Igigi dress on the far left in green. However, there are some questionable "designers". Lands End is a very reasonable, nice everyday workwear line, it is not however what I would call "designer".  I think it's a neat idea and you get the first 30 days free and it is nice to not have to worry about cleaning, the website states you can "return in any state" so my ultimate verdict is if you choose to use the service pick only the higher end designers in order to test how you will feel in the piece…

The power of the almight dollar in plus size fashion

I know that I will never  be a Giselle lookalike, my 5 foot frame and Mexican heritage have doomed me to a lifetime of ill fitting plus size petite clothes or has it?

 Say hello to Etsy ladies, where you can find gorgeous clothes custom made for you, yes it will be an investment but what do you think it would feel like to have every single piece of your wardrobe flatter your shape? It would feel incredible and it's not quite as expensive as you think, after being extremely frustrated that all the bridal gowns I'd looked at were either not available in my size or the store did not carry samples big enough for me to try on ; I looked to the internet. This is the one I fell in love with:


I was not willing to buy my dress from overseas and I really wanted to find a local dress maker, enter Etsy.com where you can find everything handmande, vintage, funky and many people across the world who make made to order clothes.

It is time we take back the right to feel beautiful, time we sto…

Memorial Day Looks that won't break the bank! All your plus size bbq dilemma's solved!.

Good Morning My Lovlies!

Memorial Day is fast approaching on May 27th, not only is that day my current yogurt stash expires, it is also the day we honor those who have served our country and given the ultimate sacrifice. That being said, the bbq's, beach parties and cook outs that will occur require a type of California chic I'm very familiar with, here are three looks sure to please any Chubby Girl:















Pair the tunic shirt with these beautiful ocean blue pants and a red or turquoise necklace and it's perfect for a family bbq or brunch.


















This is a pretty easy breezy date look from Torrid, perfect for Sunday Brunch with the girls pair with nude flats or for a naughty but nice look with sky high white or pink pumps.

If you looking for a kicked back day at the board walk or park, stay comfy and cool in capri skinny jeans and a striped shirt. The key to wearing horizontal stripes when you're a Plus is to make sure the stripes are broad and in fun colors when you wear them …

I am hubled and so very sorry for being away.

I have not posted since January 16th for many reasons but today I realized I had left an entire community which I loved being a part of. I honestly didn't think anyone read my blog and today I looked at the stats just out of curiosity and 708 hits this month alone, I am in awe of all of you, I have broken promises, missed deadlines and not delievered the goods and many of you have tried to reach out, to those who did I'm sorry I was away and your words meant the world to me though you didn't know it at the time I was and am still going through a pretty tough time.

I've always viewed our community as inclusive some people describe it as "Fatshion" but I don't see most bloggers/models who are seriously unhealthy, we just live a world that calls size 4 cheerleaders "chunky", that being said there are serious health consequences with being grossly overweight as I am. I'm going to divulge a lot here and there won't be any glossy glamorous pic…

Chubby Girl In the World In Concept Phase of Plus Size Clothing Line!

All right ladies too long have we secretly cried in dressing rooms, too long have designers ignored us to pursue their "aspirational" fashion, what the hell good is fashion if it doesn't fit? Why should we continue to pour money into designers, companies and media outlets that only make us feel ashamed of what we are? Maybe you're a new mom, maybe you're tall or maybe like me your someone who has struggled with their weight their whole lives and just wants to feel like a human being in a department store! Whatever the case, whoever you are whatever struggles you've been through I have felt the pain of not finding "the" dress, or not be able to rock an outfit you deserparetly wanted in a magazine.

No MAS.

D.F. Apparel is my new project,  my brain child. I want it to be a fully customizable clothing line for everyone sizes 00-38W, tall, average, pettite etc. Since I have no experience in design(that hasn't stopped me from sketching though), the fa…

Trying to find out why I'm here....

For a long time now I've been wondering "What the hell am I supposed to do with my life?" and I've been waiting for a sign either ephemeral or literal and alas no sign has showed up. I've planned on being everything from an attorney to a writer to a computer programmer. All of these things are easily accomplished with enough time and dedication like anything else. My problem is that I'm good at a lot of things, expert at none.

I once read "don't do what you love, do what obsesses you." Which at first I didn't understand but now I think I do. I think it means whatever you spend hours Pinning about, blogging about, reading about, do something like that, something that brings out both joy and your inner nerd. For me that has always been clothes, to me clothes, fashion, makeup hair, bring out everything from your inner sex goddess, to your "i'm gonna take over the world!" business suit. Until now I've only been brave enough to …

Finding "The" Dress-Advice for the Plus size Bride

Big and I are engaged and disgustingly cute in love, or at least everyone says we are disgustingly cute, we've been watching weddings shows, interviewing bakers, booking the venue and soon very soon I'm going to be buying  "the dress". A dress so show stopping, so unbelievably gorgeous that it can only ever be worn once.

That's right ladies it's time for me to pick a wedding dress. Now, as fashion forward as I may be in my every day life, I'm envisioning an elegant affair to remember, something timeless something that will make me look like greta garbo (only shorter of course, and Mexican lol)

A few things about shopping for plus size gowns:
1.) Bridal will tend to run smaller than street clothes, Davids Bridal is actually pretty forgiving when it comes to sizing however and their quality for the price is pretty good,

2.) Remember if you're short (like me) remember that you want to wear the dress, you don't want the dress to wear YOU.

3.) Consider…