|Capable, worthy and so much more!||Remember this all holiday season and all year long.|
The Waldorf school of thought says that 28 is the end of childhood, that this is when we know what we are going to settle down and know what our careers, our family situations and life long plans will be, if this is the case I'm entirely behind the times! I have a few of these things figured out but how many children, if I'll get married or emulate Goldie Hahn who knows? I know that I want to get fit this year as so many of you know I've been working hard on that and slowly recovering from an injury (please don't workout so hard you hurt your back, it sucks trust me.) I know that I want to learn more about finances, investments and other grown up people stuff.
But the things I have no clue about? I have no idea if I want children, I think like most people I swing between "oh that's so cute" and "hell no, take this demon spawn back" when your friend hands you their kid and then they promptly vomit on you. I know this is a perfectly natural state of being but all this "biological clock" talk has me scared will I run out of time if I don't decide soon? Am I less of a woman or cold if I decide not to have children? What if I find out I cannot readily have children?
One of my closest friends is going through this horrible ordeal and I wish I could be there to hug her hard and reassure her that no matter what nature, doctors or anyone says she'll forever be one of the most valuable people I've ever met, one of the bravest, truest and deepest friends anyone could have.
To all women going through this transition period somewhere between young adult and middle age, we are the 'tweens of generation Y; understand that there is no "right" answer for how you should live your life, there are no "rules" about having children despite what the magazine articles tell you. There is not rule saying you cannot change careers at 20,30, 40 or even 50, there is nothing stopping you from being who you are, who you want to be, whatever you do; do it with fire in your belly, compassion in your heart and a plan in your head.
Until next my lovelies