Monday, December 31, 2012

Chubby Girl In the World Gets Engaged!!!

After two years of being the most awesome boyfriend ever Terick Hines proposed to Stefanie Gomez on December 25, 2012. This is the story and hilarity of how it happened.

On Christmas eve Terick aka "Big" walked into our fabulously messy apartment ( thanks to the shin dig I three the night before) with a very large gift box. "What is that?" I exclaimed. "It's a present." was all he said. So I kept pestering him, actually I attempted to tickle him to death, then he finally said "it's something fuzzy and blue" which stopped me in my tracks "Fuzzy and blue?" last time he'd said that I got earrings from the Shane company, was it earrings again? I decided to shake the box as much as  I could, I smelled it, weighed it my hands no clue.

Christmas morning came, since we'd be waking up at 4am every day to get him to work by 5, we couldn't help getting up early and I got up at 3 that day. I jumped on him said "Merry Christmas" and dragged him out of bed. He ran into the office we have in our apartment and proceeded to dress in a suit and tie. "Why are you getting dressed like that?" I asked. "Because I have to play Santa and this is the only red thing I have." I didn't really question it as Terick says and does weird spontenous things all the time so I just let it go, the tie should have been a clue though. For the records I was wearing sheep pajamas. I waited for him in the living room and when he finally came out I handed him the present I knew he'd like best the lightsaber I'd gotten him. See my twitter pics for the reaction. After I'd let him open all his I looked at the big box longingly, was it a new computer? Or the boots I'd been lusting after on Simplybe? He grinned handed me the giant box and I ripped through the wrapping paper, two boxes stacked on top of each other, I ripped into the wrapping of the top box and pulled out.......blue fuzzy hangers. I smiled looked at him and tried not to cry, "Thank you honey, I-I needed more hangers." He couldn't help laughing at my "present" face so then I moved on to the next box hoping to God it wasn't socks. This box was smaller, and had over two balls of newspaper wrapped in giftwrapped inside. As I waded through all the wrapping paper balls, I saw it, beautifully wrapped in maroon textured giftwrap what I knew to be a Shane company box, "it is earrings! I thought) I opened the gift wrap but before I could open the box, he took it from me, got down on one knee and said: "I've loved you since the moment I saw you. I knew you were the one from the first time you smiled, I've always been drawn to you. You're the most beautiful woman I've ever seen, will you please, please be my wife." I burst out into tears and hugged him, I almost forgot to say yes. I don't think we stopped hugging each other for an hour.

I never thought I would be so incredibly happy, so joyously in love with someone. Before Terick I have never known what it was like to be completely and totally loved, to be confident in the other persons affections, loyalty and fidelity. It is one of the most liberating feelings in the world to know even if you don't understand why, that you are loved completely and unconditionally. To all those who have it cherish it, guard it and tend it well, to those of you who are still seeking it, don't worry it will find you.
-CGINTW(Soon to be Mrs. Hines)

We are getting married Dec. 21, 2013 in San Jose, CA with a small group of friends and family.

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

I hate the way this looks..... Why your clothes don't fit.

How many times have we said that in a dressing room looking in a mirror because the "plus-size" clothing line we were trying on just didn't get it, that not all women who are full figured have the same figure! The human body is a never ending conundrum of curves, and some of us have more curves than others. If you're tall and hour glass shaped you need different jeans that someone who is short and pear shaped etc. Designers in school are taught with dummies that have exaggerated heights and impossible waist lines. Most plus size patterns are merely increases in proportions, not a whole different fit which is what's needed. This is the problem I and many other people throughout the plus size world have, surely in this day in age there must be a solution to it.

My solution: I'm trying to find a new or established designer who can use consumer input to manufacture a line of clothes that actually fits, not just that the buttons close but that you can look in the mirror and say "Wow, this looks really good." Someone who understands the need for consumer customization, imagine if you could buy a pair of jeans online tomorrow by upload a picture of yourself and your dimension and the fit you would prefer, while getting professional feedback? It seems like a dream but I truly believe with the right designer, manufacturer and logistics it can be done.

What do you think?
-CGINTW

Sunday, December 16, 2012

The coolest accessories and some holiday gift ideas

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So everyone needs a little more sparkle in their lives, me you and your best friend and your mom. So here are my picks for holiday gifts for yourself and your loved ones. I've mostly earrings because they are usually the least expensive item you can buy and they have the most sparkle per ounce, clothes are fantastic but for the holidays leave the fabulous clothes shopping for yourself, your wallet will thank you.
For those snowy or wet days when galoshes just won't do Simplybe.com $133

Amazon.com $14.99 for the shoe lover

amazon.com for the drama queen

for the friend whose b-day is in dec. Long live the Sag! Amazon.com around $12.99
perfect for mom around $23 amazon.com


great for the cheerleader, optimist or young girl amazon.com $5.99

For the classic beauty amazon.com around $14.99

For the girl who loves red amazon.com $6.99

For the hopeless romantic/traveller Betsey Johnson earrings amazon.com around $20

perfect for NYE or Xmas party, gold sparkly clutch amazon.com around $11

Glitter belt by Lane Bryant around $20

Silver fold up ballet flats in sequin simplybe.com around $19.00

This  hardcase silver sparkle clutch also doubles as  a security device via the sparkly brass knuckle hardware, amazon.com part lady, part badass           
Torrid.com sparkly bangle set $12.99

Wednesday, December 12, 2012

We are on the Facebook!

As my mother would say we are now on "the" Facebook, make sure to stop by our page at
http://www.facebook.com/pages/Chubby-Girl-In-The-World/180932172045654?ref=ts&fref=ts

You can "like" us but adore the clothes from our posts, soon we will have exclusive interactive content, as soon as we learn how to program without setting our computers on fire, we promise!
-CGINTW

Sunday, December 9, 2012

Plus Size Holiday Fashion From Christmas to New Years and everything in between

Frock and Frill top Simplybe.com $72 for Christmas Brunch
 The Holidays are an awesome opportunity to get together with family and friends and use the cold nights to cozy up to your favorite person. I've searched high and low to look for pieces that you can use season after season and year after year because who isn't trying to maximize closet space as well as dollars these days right? You'll notice the amazing pieces by Tadashi Shoji for Bloomingdales, these are definitely investment pieces and things I'm currently craving but Shoji's clothes stand the test of time both in seasonality and style so you can count on value.

I've also included some amazingly good pieces from Forever21 like the contrast pipping notched blazer which frankly looks like a Brooks Brother piece designed for women. The metallic jacket is perfect for new years or a night out any day of the year. Check back next week for a look at my favorite new accessories of the season and last minute gift ideas!
Until then enjoy the pictorial fashion flavor!
-CGINTW
Evanusa.com $118 Cardigan with hood for that awesome night out carolling!

sequined sweater 24.99 Torrid.com gift for your BFF

Illusion dress simplybe.com $99 for a hot night out

Great date night sweater $65 simplybe.com

For your first "real" holiday bash be it for charity, your very formal office party or holiday event, this dress screams "I have arrived" Tadashi Shoji $448 bloomingdales.com

Sexy personified by Tadashi Shoji $338 Bloomingdales.com

Sweaterdsress Forever21.com $24.80

Forever21.com Contrast piping blazer $35

Great lounging candy colored sweater Forever21.com $22.80

Cutest french shirt ever $17.50 Forever21.com

Old Navy Pj's for $12! up to size 4X! Great buy for your friends!

Evansusa.com owl print dress-$55

Old Navy pop color jeans $29

Sequined jacket Forever21.com awesome New Years outfit Jacket is $34.80

Valentia dress by Kiyonna.com $168.00 and worth every penny

Saturday, December 8, 2012

28, Fabulous, Financially Savvy and working on getting fit.

Capable, worthy and so much more!Remember this all holiday season and all year long.
Yesterday I turned 28.

The Waldorf school of thought says that 28 is the end of childhood, that this is when we know what we are going to settle down and know what our careers, our family situations and life long plans will be, if this is the case I'm entirely behind the times! I have a few of these things figured out but how many children, if I'll get married or emulate Goldie Hahn who knows? I know that I want to get fit this year as so many of you know I've been working hard on that and slowly recovering from an injury (please don't workout so hard you hurt your back, it sucks trust me.) I know that I want to learn more about finances, investments and other grown up people stuff.

But the things I have no clue about? I have no idea if I want children, I think like most people I swing between "oh that's so cute" and "hell no, take this demon spawn back" when your friend hands you their kid and then they promptly vomit on you. I know this is a perfectly natural state of being but all this "biological clock" talk has me scared will I run out of time if I don't decide soon? Am I less of a woman or cold if I decide not to have children? What if I find out I cannot readily have children?

One of my closest friends is going through this horrible ordeal and I wish I could be there to hug her hard and reassure her that no matter what nature, doctors or anyone says she'll forever be one of the most valuable people I've ever met, one of the bravest, truest and deepest friends anyone could have.

To all women going through this transition period somewhere between young adult and middle age, we are the 'tweens of generation Y; understand that there is no "right" answer for how you should live your life, there are no "rules" about having children despite what the magazine articles tell you. There is not rule saying you cannot change careers at 20,30, 40 or even 50, there is nothing stopping you from being who you are, who you want to be, whatever you do; do it with fire in your belly, compassion in your heart and a plan in your head.
Until next my lovelies
CGINTW

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

Being Teanacious-A cautionary tale

I truly believe that in life we achieve that which we are willing to work for, those things which everyone tells us to stop dreaming or "get your head out of the clouds" those things which we dream but are often times not brave enough to jump over that chasm of self- doubt, sometimes that jump lands us on our face.

My obsession with being everything that I am currently not, fit, educated, sophisticated and thin was getting a little scary, I was beginning to contemplate things that were pretty scary like taking laxatives, I thought "Just for a few days, it can't be that bad right?" Just for the record yes, it is that bad. Tenacity though usually a good trait was not serving my best interest at this point, it was like I knew that the tried and true way was the best but it just didn't matter because I wanted to be someone else so incredibly bad, nothing else mattered.

Luckily (sort of) I injured my back at the gym during a Pinterest inspired cross-fit moment, I decided to hang upside down from some TRX straps and attempt crunches, I made it to one when I felt something shift in my back, it didn't hurt at first but on Thanksgiving morning I could barely move. I was dependent on other people for almost every thing, reaching, bending, pick things up off the floor. It was eye opening about how much my body did for me every day and here I was this whole time hating it for something I did to it, my body didn't get this way by itself and it certainly didn't happen overnight.

Something happened in the three weeks that I've been recovering I've had to closely and sometimes painfully explore the relationship I have with my body. I know so many of us have experienced this phenomenon which is why I'm sharing so you know that 1.) you're not alone 2.) you're not crazy and 3.) it does get better. I went through periods of complacency and then would have cycles of extreme self loathing, I hated looking in mirrors, so much so that I broke a compact in half because I squeezed it so hard while putting on makeup, I hated looking at me, more than that I hated looking at the me I had made myself and realizing how far away I was from being deemed "normal" or attractive by my own definitions.

The inability to work out was even worse, I had no outlet for this aggression so it turned inward and suddenly I was telling myself what a failure I was, what a terrible person for letting my life get so out of hand, for ending up this way. (As if my life is anywhere near over, I'm 28!) But then something wonderful happened, after filming the Holiday survival guide which precedes this post, I was editing the piece down, and I broke. Big was in the room with me and I just bawled my eyes out, this is how the conversation went:

Me: I'm disgusting, Look at me! I look like an elephant but not as cute in this video! It looks like my face was stung by killer bees!
Big: What? You look great and don't talk about my girlfriend that way
Me: I'm just so ugly and disgusting, I hate the way this looks, everyone will make fun of me
Big: You look totally cute and I love the way you look and I always have, I think the problem is that you know the way you want to look and you don't look the way you think you should but since we met you've always been the most beautiful woman in the room, everyone else kind of just fades out, sweetie you shine.

That's when it hit, I didn't look the way I wanted and I had been doing something about it, but I'd gone overboard and I was being unhealthy in my choices to the extreme, I think fate intervened to show me that although I'm not exactly who I want to be yet or where I want to be, I have the support, the tools and tenacity to get it done, just not overdone.

For all the Full Figured Fabulous females working on their fitness I commend you, it's not easy, it doesn't come soon enough and it requires a lot of tenacity. Don't let your own thought of who you should be cloud the vision of your current fabulousness.
-CGINTW

Sunday, December 2, 2012

Chubby Girl In the World's Two Minute Holiday Survival Guide













Watch the video above to learn about how to survive the holidays is two minutes or less! Watch it and then go shopping the economy isn't going to save itself people!
-CGINTW