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Showing posts from July, 2012

Rejoining the Working World-How traffic saved my sanity

So since June I've been unemployed until Monday of this week I had to fill my time mostly with bad television, the internet and some writing but mostly television. I could feel my humanity ebbing away with ever episode of Toddlers and Tiaras. No purpose, no drive, no verve or vigor. I was depressed and even though I had all the time in the world I wasn't motivated to work out, write or do any of the things people in the working world dream of having time for.

Yesterday something weird happened, my new employer complimented me and told me how happy they were I was there, it lit a fire underneath me, spurring new ideas, goals, new energy into me. How strange that just a few "attagirls" from relative stranger got me going.

When I got off from work I hit rush hour traffic and was stopped on one of the Portland bridges (there are a few) and I looked over at the water, glistening in the afternoon sun. I wasn't even upset we were moving at a snails pace, somehow I felt …

The Hamster wheel of fashion-What Ms. Magazine has taught me

I will be the first person to admit that I read Vogue, Glamour, Self, Fitness, Marie Claire and Cosomo almost everything month and every month I read with envy because none of those women look like me and apparently all have bank accounts exponentially bigger than mine, I'm sure we all know that feeling the industry calls these "aspirational" magazines. If we could only own "x" than our lives would be complete, except that x factor product changes all the time from a Birken bag (still want one) to a pair of loubtains (actually have savings account devoted to a pair).

We flock to own designer goods because we desperately want to achieve some of the "It" girl status. The problem is that fulfillment never comes because the system is what a clever friend of mine calls "the hamster wheel" of fashion, an ever revolving, an ever changing landscape in which one cannot even been seen in the same dress twice. Yes we've bought into the system and a…

What happens after you find "The One"-Stefanie and "Big" Ch.2

Most of my adult life has been spent searching, sorting and sorrowing over the "One" that glorious mythical being of man who is generous, spiritual, ambitious, loving, understanding, loves his mother and is drop dead gorgeous, well after many trials and tribulations, I found him and he drives me f**ing nuts.

What the Cinderella story doesn't tell you is what happens after the glass slippers come off. When you have to deal with roommates, laundry, fiancial woes and the titan of all issues closet space. When we moved in together, I couldn't believe the itty bitty tiny closet I would be forced to wait for it.... share  with Big. I know horrendous right? My Ruby Roxy dresses having to share space with his cotton poly blend work shirts, a travesty dahling. I basically took over the closet relegating his clothes to about a foot of space for his shirts, jackets and ties, which is his basic uniform du jour. Even now I think about my obi belted shirt dresses wrinkling from th…

The awesome fashion of Funny Girl Rebel Wilson

Aussie Actress Rebel Wilson is a triple threat; beautiful, funny and fashionable. You've seen her in the now cult classic Bridesmaids and in the hilarious trailer for the upcoming Pitch Perfect. Being incredibly talented, it's no wonder that Rebel Wilson was cast in these comic relief roles, every scene she's in she steals and has us rolling in the aisles with laughter. 

 Women of average size like Wilson get zero to minimal screen time normally as the comic relief or the bit part chubby friend, though hilarious at times I'd much rather people focus on how big her talent is than her jean size. We can only hope that the Hollywood casting community will sit up and take notice because much bigger things are in store for this soon to be leading lady we hope.

Wilson not only is redefining what it means to be a plus size actress, she's also making chic and sophisticated fashion her signature on and off the red carpet. Here are a few looks from the comedienne showcasing her…

How to take a staple piece from day to night

So in this economy everyone from the very wealthy to the not so financially blessed (moi) are looking to save what they can where they can. Which means not as many shopping sprees as we would like, but it is exciting to re-purpose a few staple pieces and turn them into an entire new wardrobe with the help of accessories and who doesn't love those? Here is how I turned one Lane Bryant skirt with bandage detail into an office worthy shirt dress and a chic clubbing outfit.

So see lovelies, all you have to do is find what works for you, take what you got, make it work and above all have fun with fashion, that's what it's there for.

Body Love? -Body hate isn't just from the outside, rule your inner critic

So I just finished listening to Golda Pertensky's podcast on her blog I listened to the podcast about giving yourself permission to love your body. At first I thought this was a bunch of hooey, being big isn't healthy at least that's what every doctor, coach, teacher etc. has always told me, multiple times. But after gaining back all 30 pounds I lost before I moved to Oregon, I'm open to anything that will help me get back into fighting shape. I'm not a good loser, not good at losing weight or losing the game. I have a tendency to be either obsessive or apathetic about things which I know is not healthy but that is who I am.

Listening to the podcast and all the reasons why we hate our bodies seemed all too familiar. I have always been told my body was "bad", that I was never good enough, that somehow I was subhuman because I was not a size that was convenient for others. I hadn't realized that I hated my body quite as much as I di…

The TPS Reports- Adventures of 3 people thrown together by circumstance

When I moved to Oregon to be with Big, it was a huge change for me. No job, no prospects and no expectations. Having a long distance relationship is hard, finally transitioning from long distance to every day; even harder. Sometimes I forget that I can't just take off whenever I feel like it and be gone for hours on end without telling anyone, this can tend to cause a panic in those you care about but when you're so used to doing your own thing, it doesn't seem like a big deal to you, to Big it is.

Aside from my crazy habit of disappearing for no reason what so ever, things have been going well. When I moved in I didn't just get to be with the one I love, I got all three of his roommates too. Sometimes five people living together can be stressful, suffocating even, hence the disappearing act. Our room mate Patrick has easily become our hang out buddy and sometimes when I've had too much Blue Moon confidant as well. He likes to go on "adventures" where we …

Body Acceptance in fashion and in my own head

This is what I looked liked right before I begin an earnest work out program in Dec of  2010. This was about a week in and I had seen my body start making changes, could feel myself getting stronger. Today I’m sitting at my laptop recovering from a Taco Bell bender late last night. I realized something  as I was shoveling empty calories down my gullet, I hate my body. No matter how many affirmations or cute pics or body acceptance blogs I read every time I look at the above picture I want to vomit. I don’t blame the fashion world, movies or media. I blame me. Some people might think this is because I don’t like the way I look and that is a major part of it. But I think the the thing that bothers me the most is that I’m still so far away from what I believe is an “acceptable” weight. I don’t look the way I want to, the way I think I should. Because I’ve tried so many, many times to change and have failed I get disgusted with myself and the tape recorder in my head plays the same old so…

The Story of "Jake"-My Declaration of Fashion Independence

So last year I was at Big's family Thanksgiving celebration. His sister is married to a man we'll call "Jake". Jake is that special kind of person who believes that his world view is the only correct one and if only you would agree to listen to his umpteen reasons, he is sure you'll come around. I was sitting on the couch waiting to be called into service and happened to pick up a magazine on the coffee table, it happened to be a fashion magazine. I don't remember who was on the cover, or even what magazine it was all I remember is hearing this: "You really shouldn't read that, those kinds of magazines are why women are still so far behind where they should be. Women should be worried about how to get ahead, how to be good citizens or do something more useful than wear lipstick."

I'll let the moaning subside before I continue. Yeah he actually said that. I know. I wish I could tell you that I had a witty response, that I somehow proved him w…