Sunday, May 23, 2010

Long distance relationships, our first reader question and how I still believe in Americans

So Mr. Big and I don't exactly live next door to each other, he commutes 2 hours back and forth just to see me for a day or two once a week. With all the technology at our fingertips, both of us agree there is no substitute for real, face time. I never thought anyone could care about me enough, love me enough or think I was special enough to make such a trip once, let alone over and over again just to be with lil ole me. You would think the distance would diminish the flames of desire after a time but no such thing has happened thus far, in fact it merely becomes an inferno when we do get to see each other. LDRs (long distance relationships) are not the ideal for anyone and work for very few, but with us it just seems to click. We seamlessly transition from cuddling to debating national foreign policy.Yes our civil liberties and the accurate accounting of our history is currently in danger from crazy factions who are merely puppets in a much grander scheme that has everything to do with money. This is reason for alarm but I'm responding with the hope and trust that our American ideals, our rebellious nature as a country is deep seeded in our psyche. We are not a people to be pushed around, we can no longer afford to ignore what comes natural to us, the seeking of truth, justice for even our most unfortunate citizens (and people who wish to become citizens), and standing against the oppression of freedom anywhere in our country. This is not the conservatives, the liberals, the Dems or the Rep. parties' America. This is our country and it is high time we started acting like it again, we make the decisions, we decide what we will and will not stand for, I still believe in our ability as a people to rule by common sense, by facts and to apply our passions stategically and with wisdom. (Gets off Soap Box)

Reader Question!

CG-
My boyfriend is pressuring me to have sex with him before he leaves for college, I'm 16 and want to wait for marriage, he says if I really love him I'll do it for him before he leaves. I don't know what to do.
-Confusedgrrl


Confusedgrrl-
So many young women have this same question, should they, shouldn't they? When's the right time? How will I feel about it afterward? All these questions are normal and valid. The truth is only you can know if you're ready to take a relationship to that next level, what I will say is that now being older I know at 16 that was not ready for such a big step, it was emotionally confusing, and I didn't pick the brightest crayon in the box that's for sure. I really think you need to examine why you would do this, if someone is trying to convince you to do something, it means you really didn't want to in the first place, and someone who really loved you would wait until you were ready and wouldn't pressure you into something so important. Sex is a wonderful, fun and special part of a relationship and your young adult life, don't start the story as a tragedy, write yourself a romance novel, and even if it ends up a comedy of errors, at least you'll have a smile on your face and not tears in your eyes when it's over.
-Chubby Girl

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