Did you ever secretly wonder why that girl who is a little more homely, chubby, shorter (etc.) was able to get a date and you're dance card hasn't been punched in many moons? Admit it we all go through the "I'm so much prettier than her." conversations with ourselves, we start the horrible spiral into unattractive bitchiness by comparing ourselves to people with mates, which only creates a vortex of self-loathing which leads to a bucket full of lonely because let's face it, a bitchy narcissistic sounding woman does not dating material make. It's time to stop the madness! The girl who is supposedly not up to par in your eyes at that moment of weakness just happened to find someone compatible and the trick she used? She was just living her life, so don't hate on her. So the question becomes how to break this cycle. The answer believe it or not I have found is simple!
Go out and have fun, the kind of fun you used to have when you were part of a couple and needed your alone time with the girls or guys (my friends are mostly male).Go to a game, go shopping, go do something you would never normally do, like sky diving, paint ball or anything that makes you interact with the outside world. Try on something you normally never would, the sexier the better. If you're jonesing for human contact go volunteer and do a double whammy for yourself and your community, besides you never know when a fellow good Samaritan might just turn out to be Mr. Right, you already know he cares about others, brownie points!
The point is my lovlies that too many of us sit on the couch and wonder why our love lives have lost that loving feeling. You and only you are responsible for your happiness, to put all that pressure on a single relationship is not only foolhardy, it's dangerous, sometimes things don't work out the way we want them to and that's okay. Read that last sentence again and repeat after me. "I am a whole human being, with goals,glowing accomplishments and can have fun without being part of an "us". Wanting to be part of a group is a perfectly normal human urge, it's how we survived through the eons. But since we no longer need to hunt in packs or gather the wheat from the field, you can afford to learn a new language, write a novel or do any of the things you normally wouldn't have time to do in a relationship.
So go grab your best friend, head over to the karoke bar and sing your heart out, look fabulous while doing it, and trust me someone will notice your awesome fashion sense, bravery and fun loving ways, get back to being who you are and the right things,and the right people will fall into your life effortlessly.
-The Chubby Girl In the World