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Shattering the "Big Girl" myth

Now I know that most men are decent, law abiding, courteous human beings, unfortunately there are a few good douche bags out there making you all look bad. These are the kind of men who go to clubs, bars, dating sites specifically looking for chubby girls not because they love and adore and cherish the culture to which I belong, but because they truly believe in their heart of hearts that chubby girls will do anything and everything because they are attention deprived.

Now this is not completely their fault, it is simply a misunderstanding and miseducation. A chubby girl is no more likely to sleep with you than the skinny girl down at the bar, as a matter of fact come to think of it the chubby girl is less likely to. You see as a Chubby girl the world around me has assaulted my self esteem from adolescence to the present day so I had to develop coping mechanisms, develop a personality and other good traits with which to feel good about, I became for all intents and purposes a well adjusted person who likes herself. The poor skinny girl at the bar has been told her whole life she must be pretty, timid, submissive and depend on the attentions of men to feel good about herself, she is really the one at a disadvantage unbeknowst to the douche bag who is trying to screw them both over, literally.

This waste of oxygen actually believes that the chubby girl should feel "lucky" to be noticed by him. Oh wait you're an std infested, narcissist who wants to use me? Oh yes, sign me up for that, jeez.  The point is my lovlies that you do not have to be a victim of the d-bag brigade and you don't have to be a victim of self loathing. Most of the chubby girls I know are well adjusted, productive members of society. I know there are some of you out there struggling with who you are, who you wish you were and ultimately who you will become, here's the deal. You're the one in charge and ultimately you will decide what rules you choose to follow. There is nothing wrong with going out and having a good time, there's nothing wrong with wanting more than just causal randomness, and there's nothing wrong with mixing it up a bit either. Please just remember that you are defined by your actions, your accomplishments and yourself not by the outmoded and insane ideas of the least of society, so here's to demolishing the myth and taking back your power.

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