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THE Question-How soon is too soon?

I recently went out with a guy who was an amazing kisser, when I mentioned this fact to my mother she said "you kissed him on the first date? Gross." Those were her exact words. Imagine how slutty I felt, but being the smart ass I am I said "Mom this is the twenty first century, most people skip the kissing nowadays." She snorted and looked down her nose at me which immediately made me feel like a teenager again who had done something I wasn't supposed to, but after thinking about it, screw that! 

In the words of the immortal and genius Donnas "I get what I want and I like what I see, take it off baby for me." Can we really sum up our generation any better? Let's be honest we've all at least wanted to go home with someone based on their looks alone and until recently I had never acted on this impulse, I thought that suffering through three mediocre dates justified my carnal lust on the fourth. But I believe this to have been a complete waste of time, energy and sanity. 

So here's my take on it, if you're attracted to someone, the feeling is mutual and you don't want to wait, don't, Since when does "polite society" know what the hell their talking about when it comes to sex? I truly believe that if you really like someone and they're digging you, then making love on the first date can't really hurt, and then you can find out if it's worth pursuing, I mean we've all been in the situation where we liked someone as a person but the chemistry just wasn't there. Let's stop letting outmoded and arcane thinking dominate our lives. Sleeping with someone on a first date doesn't make you a slut, sleeping with someone on a first date without a condom does!
Chubby Girl out!

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