Memorial Day Looks that won't break the bank! All your plus size bbq dilemma's solved!.

Good Morning My Lovlies!

Memorial Day is fast approaching on May 27th, not only is that day my current yogurt stash expires, it is also the day we honor those who have served our country and given the ultimate sacrifice. That being said, the bbq's, beach parties and cook outs that will occur require a type of California chic I'm very familiar with, here are three looks sure to please any Chubby Girl:
 


Old Navy $19.00

Pair the tunic shirt with these beautiful ocean blue pants and a red or turquoise necklace and it's perfect for a family bbq or brunch.

 

Old Navy $39.50











 

Ivory Floral Dress Torrid.com $26.00

This is a pretty easy breezy date look from Torrid, perfect for Sunday Brunch with the girls pair with nude flats or for a naughty but nice look with sky high white or pink pumps.

 

 

 

If you looking for a kicked back day at the board walk or park, stay comfy and cool in capri skinny jeans and a striped shirt. The key to wearing horizontal stripes when you're a Plus is to make sure the stripes are broad and in fun colors when you wear them on tops, conversely if you wear pinstripes makes sure those are on the bottom. Pair this looks with a long thin shiny chain necklace to create an even clean line. Like this one:

Forever 21.com $4.80

 

Striped Henley Tee $6 Clearance JC Penny

JC Penny Skinny Jeans up to size 24 $30.00

 

 

 

 

Don't forget to check back next Friday for my glamour shoot photos, it's time I start loving myself more and your should too. You're gorgeous you always have been and you always will be!

-CGINTW

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I am hubled and so very sorry for being away.

I have not posted since January 16th for many reasons but today I realized I had left an entire community which I loved being a part of. I honestly didn't think anyone read my blog and today I looked at the stats just out of curiosity and 708 hits this month alone, I am in awe of all of you, I have broken promises, missed deadlines and not delievered the goods and many of you have tried to reach out, to those who did I'm sorry I was away and your words meant the world to me though you didn't know it at the time I was and am still going through a pretty tough time.

I've always viewed our community as inclusive some people describe it as "Fatshion" but I don't see most bloggers/models who are seriously unhealthy, we just live a world that calls size 4 cheerleaders "chunky", that being said there are serious health consequences with being grossly overweight as I am. I'm going to divulge a lot here and there won't be any glossy glamorous pics (those will come later, I have a plan.) Today is just about being honest with myself and with you. So here it goes.

My Name is Stefanie Marie Gomez and I am a compulsive over eater, I eat when I'm sad, bored, lonely or when things aren't going my way. I'm five feet tall and weigh 314 pounds, I've lost my first 20 pounds over 10 times in my life and gone right back, I feel like complete failure in life, in dieting and I feel as if the man who has chosen to spend his life with me has sentenced himself to a life of unhappiness. I feel as though there is no way anyone could find me beautiful let alone sexually attractive because when I look in the mirror I see failure, failed will power, a hopelessly flawed body and I've never felt any other way, I hate looking in the mirror because I will be reminded of the gross thing that is reflected in the mirror and to the world.

 I have been in denial for too long, to me the me that thinks and feels that woman in the mirror is someone else, she deserves ridicule and punishment for not getting her act together, so I beat her up mentally and with food. I eat in secret at times just so people won't know how much I'm actually consuming because if they knew that Taco Bell order was just for me they'd be horrified. Every time I try and fail it reinforces my idea that I'm just not meant to be healthy, which I know is just a cop out.

The problem is I really don't like that girl in the mirror, in fact I hate her. I wish I could make her go away and never come back, but every time I get on the right track I think I freak out and backslide because a part of me thinks that she is  who I really am, that I really am a complete failure and will never amount to anything. In my head until I'm thin and beautiful none of my accomplishments will mean anything which I know is so bewilderingly unhealthy magical thinking. So I've decided that from now on, this is the one place I can be honest with myself, I'm going to add a small journal page where I just come and vent about the day, I encourage any of you going through this same process to comment, share and support me and each other through this tough process.

How am I going to deal with this? Why dressing up and putting on pretty make up of course, sound trivial? Scientists believe that makeup can give you a small boost of confidence when wearing it, so I'm going to put that to the test. I'm going to do a glamour shoot in our newly refurnished bedroom (yeah!) and put the pics up by next Friday. Want to send in your most glamorous pics? We will share them and we can let the healing start.

To all my lovlies,
CGINTW

Chubby Girl In the World In Concept Phase of Plus Size Clothing Line!

All right ladies too long have we secretly cried in dressing rooms, too long have designers ignored us to pursue their "aspirational" fashion, what the hell good is fashion if it doesn't fit? Why should we continue to pour money into designers, companies and media outlets that only make us feel ashamed of what we are? Maybe you're a new mom, maybe you're tall or maybe like me your someone who has struggled with their weight their whole lives and just wants to feel like a human being in a department store! Whatever the case, whoever you are whatever struggles you've been through I have felt the pain of not finding "the" dress, or not be able to rock an outfit you deserparetly wanted in a magazine.

No MAS.

D.F. Apparel is my new project,  my brain child. I want it to be a fully customizable clothing line for everyone sizes 00-38W, tall, average, pettite etc. Since I have no experience in design(that hasn't stopped me from sketching though), the fashion industry or garment making but I do have plenty of experience knowing how I wish my clothes fit; I'm opening this up to you, in the comments section leave your answer to the question "I wish my clothes...." upload photos, are you an aspiring designer, email me at chubbygirlintheworld@gmail.com, I want to make your designs come to life! Are you a current fashion student who is looking for a porject to gain experince? Let me know. Seamstress who needs extra work, I'm your lady.

My design sketches of 10 different pieces will be up this Sunday. However if you'd like to contribute to this project with full recognition (i.e) if we decide on your design we will purchase it from you!
Upload inspiration or sketches in our comments section or email to chubbygirlintheworld@gmail.com or share your Pinterest boards with us!

Love, Happiness and Success to you all!
-CGINTW

Trying to find out why I'm here....

For a long time now I've been wondering "What the hell am I supposed to do with my life?" and I've been waiting for a sign either ephemeral or literal and alas no sign has showed up. I've planned on being everything from an attorney to a writer to a computer programmer. All of these things are easily accomplished with enough time and dedication like anything else. My problem is that I'm good at a lot of things, expert at none.

I once read "don't do what you love, do what obsesses you." Which at first I didn't understand but now I think I do. I think it means whatever you spend hours Pinning about, blogging about, reading about, do something like that, something that brings out both joy and your inner nerd. For me that has always been clothes, to me clothes, fashion, makeup hair, bring out everything from your inner sex goddess, to your "i'm gonna take over the world!" business suit. Until now I've only been brave enough to read and write and fawn over those in the industry thinking I wasn't talented or worthy enough to be a part of that world.

It wasn't until recently that I'm finally getting up the guts to work on a project I've been thinking about for ages. I won't say anything until all the details are in order but rest assured it's coming and it will be FABULOUS!

TTFN my lovlies and I will be back next week with a grand announcement!
-CGITW

Finding "The" Dress-Advice for the Plus size Bride

Big and I are engaged and disgustingly cute in love, or at least everyone says we are disgustingly cute, we've been watching weddings shows, interviewing bakers, booking the venue and soon very soon I'm going to be buying  "the dress". A dress so show stopping, so unbelievably gorgeous that it can only ever be worn once.

That's right ladies it's time for me to pick a wedding dress. Now, as fashion forward as I may be in my every day life, I'm envisioning an elegant affair to remember, something timeless something that will make me look like greta garbo (only shorter of course, and Mexican lol)

A few things about shopping for plus size gowns:
1.) Bridal will tend to run smaller than street clothes, Davids Bridal is actually pretty forgiving when it comes to sizing however and their quality for the price is pretty good,

2.) Remember if you're short (like me) remember that you want to wear the dress, you don't want the dress to wear YOU.

3.) Consider your shape, are you apple? (Like me with a tummy) or pear, or diamond or square on top? Let the consultant know which areas you are self conscious about so she can try to find the right fit, if you fall in love with a strapless dress but hate your arms ask to see a wrap or if sleeves can be added.

4.) If you are on the higher end of plus size (again like me, I'm a 28 for now) call ahead and ask what the salon carries in terms of sample in store, clips will only go so far on a dress 5 sizes too small, you don't want what should be a wonderful experience turning into a sob fest when nothing fits.

5.) DO NOT let your size stand in the way of getting your perfect dress. Every woman deserves to feel beautiful on her day, never settle, you didn't settle for your mate, no need to settle on the dress.

I've found some winners everything from reasonably priced to outlandish extravagance, so here's a little taste of my new obsession:
Igigi's collection of wedding dresses is to die for and beyond reasonable this one part of a limited collection is around $500.
This dress had been my dream dress since before I got engaged, it was available in my size every year that I was NOT engaged and now sadly it's no longer available in my size, however if you're a 14/16 you definitely should check it out on igigi.com About $375


The incredibly talented Monique Lhuillier created this custom made dress for America Ferrara in the movie "Our family wedding" I cannot wait to get back to the gym so I can look like this on W day! She is so incredibly gorgeous! Price upon request.

This is from Laylan Heck on Pinterst, an event planner who pinned this amazing pic of a beautiful plus bride who look amazing from head to toe.
Alfred Angelo- available up to size 26 about $600

If you find yourself desiring designer but your pocket book isn't familiar with Benjamins, try consignment shops here in Oregon there is Shabby Chic Bridal in Salem (i'm going there first!)
Also online there are tons of website with bride's reselling their gowns to recoup money from the wedding. There are even some that have never been worn, people often change their wind about the type and style of dress they like, often times seeing something online, purchasing and then deciding to go a different decoration. Make sure to check our recyclebride.com for used gowns, accessories and other reusable things.

Chubby Girl In the World Gets Engaged!!!

After two years of being the most awesome boyfriend ever Terick Hines proposed to Stefanie Gomez on December 25, 2012. This is the story and hilarity of how it happened.

On Christmas eve Terick aka "Big" walked into our fabulously messy apartment ( thanks to the shin dig I three the night before) with a very large gift box. "What is that?" I exclaimed. "It's a present." was all he said. So I kept pestering him, actually I attempted to tickle him to death, then he finally said "it's something fuzzy and blue" which stopped me in my tracks "Fuzzy and blue?" last time he'd said that I got earrings from the Shane company, was it earrings again? I decided to shake the box as much as  I could, I smelled it, weighed it my hands no clue.

Christmas morning came, since we'd be waking up at 4am every day to get him to work by 5, we couldn't help getting up early and I got up at 3 that day. I jumped on him said "Merry Christmas" and dragged him out of bed. He ran into the office we have in our apartment and proceeded to dress in a suit and tie. "Why are you getting dressed like that?" I asked. "Because I have to play Santa and this is the only red thing I have." I didn't really question it as Terick says and does weird spontenous things all the time so I just let it go, the tie should have been a clue though. For the records I was wearing sheep pajamas. I waited for him in the living room and when he finally came out I handed him the present I knew he'd like best the lightsaber I'd gotten him. See my twitter pics for the reaction. After I'd let him open all his I looked at the big box longingly, was it a new computer? Or the boots I'd been lusting after on Simplybe? He grinned handed me the giant box and I ripped through the wrapping paper, two boxes stacked on top of each other, I ripped into the wrapping of the top box and pulled out.......blue fuzzy hangers. I smiled looked at him and tried not to cry, "Thank you honey, I-I needed more hangers." He couldn't help laughing at my "present" face so then I moved on to the next box hoping to God it wasn't socks. This box was smaller, and had over two balls of newspaper wrapped in giftwrapped inside. As I waded through all the wrapping paper balls, I saw it, beautifully wrapped in maroon textured giftwrap what I knew to be a Shane company box, "it is earrings! I thought) I opened the gift wrap but before I could open the box, he took it from me, got down on one knee and said: "I've loved you since the moment I saw you. I knew you were the one from the first time you smiled, I've always been drawn to you. You're the most beautiful woman I've ever seen, will you please, please be my wife." I burst out into tears and hugged him, I almost forgot to say yes. I don't think we stopped hugging each other for an hour.

I never thought I would be so incredibly happy, so joyously in love with someone. Before Terick I have never known what it was like to be completely and totally loved, to be confident in the other persons affections, loyalty and fidelity. It is one of the most liberating feelings in the world to know even if you don't understand why, that you are loved completely and unconditionally. To all those who have it cherish it, guard it and tend it well, to those of you who are still seeking it, don't worry it will find you.
-CGINTW(Soon to be Mrs. Hines)

We are getting married Dec. 21, 2013 in San Jose, CA with a small group of friends and family.

I hate the way this looks..... Why your clothes don't fit.

How many times have we said that in a dressing room looking in a mirror because the "plus-size" clothing line we were trying on just didn't get it, that not all women who are full figured have the same figure! The human body is a never ending conundrum of curves, and some of us have more curves than others. If you're tall and hour glass shaped you need different jeans that someone who is short and pear shaped etc. Designers in school are taught with dummies that have exaggerated heights and impossible waist lines. Most plus size patterns are merely increases in proportions, not a whole different fit which is what's needed. This is the problem I and many other people throughout the plus size world have, surely in this day in age there must be a solution to it.

My solution: I'm trying to find a new or established designer who can use consumer input to manufacture a line of clothes that actually fits, not just that the buttons close but that you can look in the mirror and say "Wow, this looks really good." Someone who understands the need for consumer customization, imagine if you could buy a pair of jeans online tomorrow by upload a picture of yourself and your dimension and the fit you would prefer, while getting professional feedback? It seems like a dream but I truly believe with the right designer, manufacturer and logistics it can be done.

What do you think?
-CGINTW