Wednesday, June 18, 2014

Shout out to local businesses!- Please support local and homegrown plus size friendly business in your area! This is the Portland edition

If you're in Portland Metro area do not miss out on going to two shops one in Northwest called Fat Fancy which has killer vintage and new styles for the plus size retro princesses out there and in the Southeast there is Savvy Plus run by the beautiful and awesome Gaya (I'm not sure if I spelled that right! Someone please correct me if I'm wrong).

Fat Fancy- great for both men and women and the funky little shop is right in the heart of downtown Portland so it's a great destination if you're on the Northwest side of town and wanna do some shopping. My favorite piece I got there is the amazing graphic crop top I use over camis. The girls who work here are amazing at making you feel comfortable and helping you find exactly what you're looking for.

Savvy-Plus has been and will continue to be my first destination when shopping for casual and career wear. I went in yesterday and was so excited about all the new things, the inventory is constantly changing so go in at least once a week. I've seen everything there from Coach bags to Shoji Todashi dresses (to die for!), Anne Taylor and some things still have tags on them! Gaya and company are super friendly and helpful, they also do consignment so bring in your gently used fashion forward stuff and buy different awesome stuff while you're there.

Do you have an online or brick and mortar store you'd like us to review and feature on the business posts? Let us know at chubbygirlintheworld@gmail.com

Wednesday, April 23, 2014

Overcoming the "I'm too fat for this."

I have not been posting lately due to many reasons, I'm back in school, I'm working full time again and I've been stuck in a depressive cycle in which I overeat, condemn myself for being a glutton tell myself I'll never amount to anything and then overeat again to make myself feel better. Wow, that sound really crazy when I say it like that. But so many women I know have told me the go through exactly the same thing. We lie awake at night thinking about all the terrible things we did to our bodies that day. I had McDonalds and Taco Bell all in the same day; word to the wise don't do this.

Tomorrow I have to go out networking, normally this is a chance for me to increase our connections or strengthen ones we already have and hopefully broker us more deals in the process but really it's about relationship building and frankly I've been pretty terrible at it lately. Why has my performance decreased so drastically? Because I don't think I deserve to be there, I feel like every time my spare tire jiggles it's just one of the myraid of reasons someone has to not take me seriously. I used to feel like a Boss, now I just feel like a bloated oompa loompa. How do I get back to me? How do I get back to believe that Yes! Indeed I can! or as my people say Si Se Puede! I'm not actually sure how you get back there, I guess recognizing that I was there is a start.

This how I imagine the other person in a business meeting thinking:
"I thought she was trying to lose weight, well if she did if found her again. OMG those pants don't hide that gut at all. Why would she ever wear pinstripes being that big? That dress make her look like a beached whale."

This is what I imagine is the other persons internal dialogue, now I understand this is a very narcissistic view of their thoughts because most likely they are thinking about the hundred things they have to do or about what they want for lunch and not about my beached whale pants but still I tell myself what if that is what they are thinking. Do people not take me seriously because of my size? The cold hard truth is yes, there are some people who because of social conditioning believe that heavier people have no self control, are lazy and won't be as effective as a fit person. This is categorically false but it's why they have internalized as truth, everyone has handicap or a flaw, intimacy issues, addictions mine just happens to be very visible.

So here is my plan, tomorrow I'm going to get up early shower and make sure that I do my hair in the most fabulous way and that my make up is perfect; this won't actually help me or the other person I'm speaking to in any measurable way but I will feel better knowing that I've done every single thing to make sure I'm playing the part of the successful business woman even if for now it's just a dress rehearsal.
Good Night Lovlies
CGINTW

Sunday, February 9, 2014

Winter is coming...

So my fiance and I are obsessed with Game of Thrones. We love Danny, hate Jofferey and yes I read the f@uking books! So winter is here, I've been snowed in for three days here in Wilsonville,OR with one of the largest snow storms to hit the area since 1996. So in order to keep from getting cabin fever I've decided to share with you lovlies the pieces which I'm currently coveting from Igigi and a new source I found called Navbi (much more expensive, think Nordstroms for plus sizes).  I also wanted to make you aware (as if you didn't know) how awesome some modcloth stuff is. I just purchased the travel day skirt on sale for 14.99, we do love a bargain.

Things drool worthy from Igigi:


Zola Dress in Daylily PurpleZola Dress $118 I imagine mysels as Reese witherspoon in this dress, cute, quirky and loveable.
Garnet Dress in Blackgarnet dress in black, perfect for office or cocktails. I imagine the model as a Bond girl, with a thigh holster and .22 tucked inside her dress.
Cadence Dress in Black/IvoryCadence Dress $118.
I think I could take over the world in this dress, it's fashionable, the structure is forgiving and it would be amazing with nude, black, white or red pumps.
Ambrosia Dress in BlackAmbrosia Dress $175
This is how I look in my head, this is my alter ego, sexy, confident and can wear strappy gold heels.
Garbo GownThe Garbo Dress $225, sophisticated, elegant and just a slit of sexy. I love how in charge she looks, this is a dress for A Boss.
Botanical Bloom Cuff in Goldon sale now for $29.99 Evokes a feeling of an Amazonian princess in me.

Modcloth lovliness:
Travel Day Skirt - Chiffon, Woven, Black, Polka Dots, Floral, Pleats, Work, Better, Daytime Party, Mid-length, Ballerina / Tutu, BlackTravel Day Skirt $14.99 on sale a few left. Up to 4x. I fell in love with it because it was cheap, cute and in my size.


Coach Tour Dress in Bleu - Solid, Buttons, A-line, Sleeveless, Blue, Work, Casual, Fall, Exclusives, Best Seller, Cowl, Variation, Winter, Basic, Mid-length, Folk Art, Spring, Nautical, Top RatedCoach Tour Dress $47.99 beautiful color and I love the gold button detail. the gathering at the waist help hide any bumps and with some black tights and an undershirt (I don't like exposing my arms) it would work really well.
Airport Greeting Cardigan in Oatmeal - Jersey, Cream, Solid, Casual, Long Sleeve, Exposed zipper, Pockets, Cowl, Variation, Travel, Basic, Best Seller, Fall, Winter, White, Long Sleeve, Knit, Mid-length, Top RatedAirport Greeting cardi $54.99 Perfect for effortless chic. Wear this with jeans when you don't know what else to do and let the compliments wash over you.

Office Envy Skirtoffice envy skirt $69.99 This will be my next purchase from ModCloth is still available next month, as I really would like a staple black skirt for work.

Conference Confidence Dressconference confidence dress $99.99
Fantastic staple piece you can dress up or down. Love the darts with pockets, figure flattering and the boat neckline makes it work appropriate and easy to wear for more busty ladies.

NAVBI:
Maxima Sheath dress with lace Black$123.90 on sale Maxima dress

Manon Baptiste Dress with collar and large box pleats Black / Coral-OrangeManon Baptise $257.912





Sunday, November 24, 2013

Becoming a Fashion Grown up-Chubby Girl In the World Style

Ok, I'll admit it I'm getting old, on Dec. 7th of this year I will be 29! (Silent freak out). What's worse is I'm now a grown up with an early not mid-twenties closet. I feel like I've outgrown the major retailers and need to move on, I'm ready for a more mature fashion relationship but I have fashion issues.
 My key fashion issues:

  • Short leg, longer torso
  • Bottom heavy in all the wrong places
  • what I call "marshmallow syndrome"- If clothes are too tight, it looks like I'm a sausage, if too loose they not shape at all.
So does any of this sound familiar? Here's the advice that has actually worked for me over the years and if I had unlimited funds this is the wardrobe I would create, I' a size 28 which is considered "super sized" so for the sake of argument I'll include designers that stop at size 26 but note them with an asterisk*. Nothing is worse than reading a that one page of Marie Claire dedicated to Plus fashion and realizing none of that fabulous can be yours.

Perfectly tailored pants:
 onestopplus.com-Pants by Igigi.com
Tailored oxford shirt:
onestopplus.com-the pintuck gives this shirt an update from the older oxfords.

structured tulip skirt:
_mg_4744qfd.com "Enamored" ensemble
Structured body con dress:

Mossimo® Women's Plus-Size Sleeveless Ponte Dress -  Assorted Colors Target.com $19.79




Amazing Blazer:
Monif C. "Veronica" Blazer

Cocktail Dress:
igigi.com- ambrosia-dress.jpg (1056×1440)just the right amount of sexy.


Special occasion dress:Black And Gold Party Dress by Ruby RoxI actually own this awesome Ruby Rox dress, it's perfect for New Years, an anniversary night or a Gatsby themed party! Available on SONSI.com

Feminine accessories: I like to keep the darker colors on my bottom half and use accessories for my pop of color. like these:

oscar de la renta $125 renttherunway.com

Crislu emerald drop earring $25 renttherunway.com

Anne Klein Stone Station Necklacenordstrom.com
igigi.com


Mens inspired piece:Monochrome Contrast Detail Shirtsimplybe.com

There is my dream wardrobe and now I must go to bed and dream of it because Mr. T as he's affectionately known now is making me go to bed.
Good night and ta ta for now my lovelies.
-CGINTW

Tuesday, November 19, 2013

Hot Holiday Outfits from Turkey Day to the NYC Ball drop



So I am on the hunt for occasion appropriate holiday outfits here's what I've found so far:

Are you meeting your boyfriends parents for the first time this Thanksgiving? Keep young, classy and sophisticated in a belted tunic
Bespoke Shirt With Belt
Simplybe.com $45
Belted Ankle Grazer PantsPair with these ankle length pants, remove the belt though and
 Don't forget to tone down the accessories, if you're going to wear hair down no need for earrings, instead do a bold lipstick to match the belt, if you're wearing your hair up or you have a shorter style go with a more neutral lip and do diamond or pear studs, timeless.
Hanging out with your friends during the Holidays for Secret Santa? Go casual and cute with these sweaters also from Simply be.com Love the Santa hat!


Kiss Me Sweater$56Mitten Sweater$65

Pair with a pair of jeans like these Seven jeans available at Lane Bryant for $89.95:

Double stitch bootcut jean by Seven7



Hanging out with fam this holiday season? Want to look pulled together but not fussy? Try a sweater dress or pair dark wash jeans with a bright body hugging sweater. Keep make up natural but play up your eyes with these looks and make sure to wear an awesome statement necklace with this dress, think cascading gold arrow necklace!


Extra Touch Plus Size Sweater, Short-Sleeve Metallic TunicMacys.com $18.99     Zip shoulder sweaterlanebraynt.com $59.95



Away from home and partying through the Holidays? Or just looking for that perfect NYE dress? Here are some awesome options


Both of these looks available at Forever21.com under Plus sizes, use the leather skirt and peplum shirt for an impromptu date night, and take this furry vest and all its sumptuousness out for a ride while holiday shopping with the girls.



Having a daytime Holiday Party at work or just want to keep it modest? Show your holiday spirit in this sequined top from Torrid.com
torrid.com 44.50

AX Paris Lace Waist Skater DressOr this amazingly cute and simply dress from simplybe.com $65 Pair it with navy shoes for fall and bright red pumps during the holidays.

This year you can channel your inner femme fatale or flapper with these awesome NYE dresses both can be found at simplybe.com Don't forget your Great Gatsby headgear!

Claire Richards Sequin Bodycon Dress$150
Joanna Hope Angel Sleeve Sequin DressJoanna Hope Angel Sleeve Sequin Dress $ 210
Happy Shopping my lovlies and remember it's not the size on the tag that matters it's how awesome it makes you feel, no matter if you're a 12 or 36 you are beautiful and you don't need anyone's permission to think so!
-CGITW



 





Friday, November 8, 2013

Fat Shaming-Why it will never motivate obese people to lose weight.


 
 
 
 
The average American woman is a size 12 or over, the most common size being a size 16/18. A doctor whose name I don't think is worth mentioning (as he's gotten enough press already) has advised that doctors "put heavy social pressure" on their overweight patients to lose weight. He believe that social shaming will motivate people to live healthier lives and modify habits similar to what the anti-smoking campaigns did in the 1990's. Yes those campaigns were effective and got the message across.  However, a person can choose to never smoke again, unfortunately I will still have to eat dinner tonight, it might be a salad or pizza depending on my mood, but guess what I going to pick if I feel bad about myself, think other people hate me because of my weight and I feel isolated and ridiculed by my doctors "shaming" their patients.
 
Let me be perfectly clear being morbidly obese is a chronic condition, it's something that needs constant attention and work. You don't have to be 125 to be healthy but someone as heavy as me (322 pounds thank you) does need to work on cleaning up fitness and nutrition habits to prevent diabetes, heart disease all those things but the way to do that is through encouragement not fat shaming.
 
 Fat shaming is bullying under the guise of "tough love" and it doesn't work. Why would anyone take advice from someone who makes them feel bad about themselves. If your true motivation is to help someone lead a healthier life, then as a physician maybe you should undergo actual training in nutrition instead of the cursory overview you had to do in medical school. Also stop assuming that I'm lazy, I actually once had a doctor ask me "So, do you just stay home all day?" I think he truly imagined me sitting around my house eating bon bons all day.  Stop trying to equate me as a person with the size of my jeans, I'm a hard working independent woman who can and always will stand on her own merit, just because I literally don't fit into the mold you want me too does not make me an irrelevant or unimportant part of society, it just makes me someone with excess fat to lose.
 
 
Plus Model Magazine did an excellent job on discussing the stupid and moronic twitter taunts directed  actress Gabby Sidibe when she had a scene on her show that involved a sex scene. BIG surprise bigger women have sex too and guess what there's nothing wrong with that! I can't believe that in this age women are having to not only defend their reproductive rights but now you're supposed to be ashamed of your sexual desires if you're overweight? Again I have issues with the so-called "Fat Acceptance" movement, but what I cannot abide is actual medical professionals supporting that idea that bullying their patients is a good idea. What about having better nutrition in schools? Bringing back P.E. and Dance and Sports, what about giving tax incentives to everyone for joining a gym? Healthcare costs related to obesity are soaring but every study shows that positive reinforcement coupled with slow sustained weight loss is the key to lifestyle change. Let's focus on making every person better, help those who are struggling and be the support of those who need it, let's make positive changes in ourselves, in our families and in our communities.
-Chubby Girl In The World
Stefanie Gomez (5 Feet tall, 322 pounds and working on it.)
 

Wednesday, October 16, 2013

Earning the right to be a mother-The reason I'm putting off having children until I'm healthy.

Last night, an episode of The Biggest Loser really got to me, one of the women on the show talked about her food addiction and how her little girl was 70 pounds overweight. I cried when I saw the pain in her face, the palpable guilt was visible in her stature she stood like the weight of the world was on her shoulders and for good reason. It's one thing to be unhealthy it's something completely different to allow your children to continue the cycle but they will if you don't change something and I would know. I come from a generations long line of women who struggle with their weight, almost every single family member I have is a diabetic, myself included.

My family didn't set out to be unhealthy, they actually have tried for years to turn the corner and many of them have on an individual level and the journey isn't quite over yet for many, like my mother who is the best mom in the world and she  has always struggled with her weight. She didn't actually have time to go on a diet before having me, I came as a total surprise! The doctors didn't even believe her when she knew was pregnant, they kept telling her she just had gas! (She still tells me I'm full of hot air)

 I know that is she could plan it out, no surprises this time she would have done everything in her power to make sure we was healthy and ready for me, this I have no doubt of. It's her amazing example of a loving, nurturing and fiercely protective maternal figure that helped me through all the amazingly hard times with my weight. I have always struggled with my weight, there is not a time in my life when I have been at a healthy BMI for my height, I don't actually know what it's like to be healthy, it's a foreign concept to me.

Skinny was for other people not me, every time I would try to lose weight I would fail, the failure made me feel bad the only thing that made me feel good was food, I gained more weight. This viciousness has perpetuated itself on my family for too long. So I made a decision last night; I will not be a mother before I get to a healthy weight and have established a history of exercise and eating right for a least a year before getting pregnant.

I always told myself that I would not have children before I could afford them, soon I will have reached the financial wonderland of professionalism and homeownership in a few years. I always believed buying a home was the financial signal that it was okay to have children, however what about your body's signal? I thought long and hard about it, there was no way I would pass on my bad habits to my son or daughter, I couldn't live with myself if something happened to them because I couldn't make a commitment to myself to get healthy.

Because I've had such an amazing mother, who set the bar particularly high, I want to be the best one possible as well. I'm already in love with my children and they aren't even coming yet! Walking on the treadmill has a new meaning for me now, every step is one step closer to starting my new family, with new habits, new futures and a bright outlook, I can't wait until I start running toward them.
-CGINTW